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Currently sick. When I’ve recovered, remind me to do a proper post debunking the myth that Black adoptees aren’t adopted as much as non-Black adoptees are.
The reason most international adoptions are not Black is NOT because white saviors don’t want Black children (antiblackness takes many insidious forms and one of them is the notion that Black children must be “saved” from their own birth families and communities and their cultures erased)
The biggest reason why most international adoptees are not Black is because native and diasporic Black peoples have historically led the charge for family preservation.
On an international scale, Africa has generally had the strictest (read: REASONABLE) regulations to safeguard against child trafficking and abuse.
I’m not saying that other continents and regions have been lax — people these days forget just how big and consequential the Cold War & anticommunism geopolitics were and still are, which accounts for Asia still being the #1 child “supply” region. South America and Eastern Europe’s histories are just as complicated.
But everyone keeps citing that one dumbshit white American “Freakonomics” dude whose data doesn’t even cover the U.S., just one conveniently narrow domestic instance in a country that’s the biggest child “receiver” nation in entire world. Ugh.
unsungvoicesexperience ILU. X
Sorry for all the assholes shiting on you :( you do such an amazing job & I learned so much from following you! Thanks for that!!
I get so many msgs like this, but I know you’ve been following me for a while so I’ll dignify yours with a response:
People of colour are not your teaching tools. ESPECIALLY not adopted orphans of colour.
It is NOT my intention much less my “job” to educate whites and non-adoptees.
The tasks of unmaking and shedding light on oppression should NEVER be relegated to the oppressed people.
Using me as a source for your benefit and saying "sorry for all the assholes shitting on you,” yet failing to publicly call out the other white bio spawn doing aforementioned shitting is actually terribly rude of you. Your thanks is ultimately nothing but misguided entitlement.
I keep track of my real allies who use my content freely to become better informed themselves, then come collect their own when I make clear that white folks/bio spawn are attacking me.
The names of churches on your block? Nope. Just the names of slave ships that made over 40,000 trips back and forth across the Atlantic during the Trans Atlantic slave trade. The LARGEST FORCED MIGRATION IN HUMAN HISTORY. (via howtobeterrell)
i thought this was a joke or a mistake. and then i looked it up. and it’s not. and WHAT THE ACTUAL HELL?
I'm so disgusted by the disproportionate amount of people whining in the notes on your post about the Haitian boy who was given up about "not all white people". They had the god damn nerve to look at the source material and ONLY choose to cherrypick the people going "white people are awful", yell at them because their precious egos were hurt, and ignore the damn point of the post entirely. I am so incredibly disgusted.
Heh. The latest accusation is that I’m “trying to cause trouble" with my coverage of adopted child trafficking that (unlike that “Good Housekeeping” trash mag) isn’t some abuse apologist defense of a racist American who has a history of hurting animals.
White feelings > the lives of orphaned children of color
Must be a day that ends in ‘y’.
I’m been getting mad shit from
antiblack abuse apologists people trying to justify the actions of Stacey Conner, that white American mother who gave away her adopted 5-year old Haitian child and claimed she suffered "domestic abuse" at his hands.
Of course they claim to be unbiased fact-checkers in search of “the whole story,” all the while remaining conveniently ignorant of all pertinent facts to the growing epidemic of adoptive child trading abuse and in the U.S.,
From When Children Are Traded, published November 20, 2013 in The New York Times:
[TRIGGER WARNING: sexual assault, child abuse] This is “private re-homing,” something that once meant finding a new home for a dog that barked too much. Now it refers to families recycling their adopted children, often through Internet postings.
There are commonly no courts involved, no lawyers, no social service agencies and no vetting of the new parents. There’s less formality than the transfer of a car.
Private re-homing of adoptive children was explored in a devastating five-part investigative series this fall from Reuters. The reporters found that on one Yahoo message board, a child was offered for re-homing on average once a week (Yahoo has since closed the board). Most of the children ranged in age from 6 to 14 and had been adopted abroad, but some were American-born.
When one troubled Russian girl was 12 years old, she was re-homed three times within six months and told Reuters that, by the time she was 13, a boy at one of the homes had sex with her — and then urinated on her.
A Chinese girl crippled by polio ended up in a home where a woman with an explosive temper was eventually overseeing 18 children. The girl says that the woman confiscated her leg brace, which she needed to walk. And, according to court records, the woman, as a form of punishment, once ordered her to dig a hole in the backyard — for her own grave.
“You die here and no one will know,” the Chinese girl quoted the woman as saying. “No one will find you.”
But instead of reading Reuters or the New York Times, these
antiblack racists “objective” bloggers keep relying on that one Good Housekeeping magazine interview (LOL of all sources).
post-buster, which exclusively promotes itself as a “fact checking” tumblr, is the most recent culprit in the vilification of an abused 5-year old Black adopted orphan. They claim coverage of his mistreatment was “exaggerated” and without “context,” and they focus on J.s “behavioral problems that made the mother fear for the safety of her other children.” They FAIL to acknowledge that the “attachment” abuse J. was subjected to for months where a child must ask for necessities like food and water, was the same kind that murdered 4-year old Cassandra Killpack, another Black adoptee branded with “reactive attachment disorder” and “emotional problems.”
post-buster encourages others to call them out when they fuck up. So I leave it to the allies of adoptees to step up now and do so.
FUCK. Just holy FUCK? I read your posts about RAD and the linked articles. I had to stop about halfway to throw up and I just cried for the rest of it. How do these people exist? How can these things happen? HOW CAN THEY BE LET NEAR CHILDREN? I am trans and my partner and I would very much like children one day and I would quite like to adopt. I'm sorry, i don't really know what to say, this just really distresses me. Is there anything we can do?
This child advocacy organzation does a good job of answering the "how can this happen" and "how people who propagate life threatening torture are let near children" questions.
They have a simple but text heavy site. If you’re truly serious about adopting, I strongly recommend reading and processing ALL of it.
As for what you can do practically:
➊ Find out if your state/county’s tax dollars are going to any “RAD” programs or practitioners. If so, raise hell. Your fellow taxpayers probably wouldn’t be happy if they learn their money’s going to programs that withhold food, water, sleep, education, and oxygen from children, eh?
➋ Drive this into your brain and the brains of as many other people you can find remotely interested in adoption: There is no empirical scientific support for the popular notion that children with attachment problems grow up to become psychopaths or otherwise prey on society.
Practitioners of this torturous “attachment” BS sucker people in with claims that their “treatments” are the only kind that will work to keep a RAD child from turning into a knife-wielding sociopath.
➌ And of course listen to adoptees and support us. One of the few fellow survivors of RAD “therapy/parenting” I’ve been able to find is terriblegurl, who was told that her being gay is a symptom of attachment disorder.
I feel like crying right now because so many white people adopt Haitians and its our biggest fear that they won't get love and respect and that they'll have no opportunity to learn about their culture and one day they'll just forget about it.
My heart goes out to you, truly, I wish I could offer comfort and say your fear was unjustified.
I wish I could tell you that Haiti isn’t a target of the Evangelical crusade to traffick and indocrinate children with Christianity.
I wish I could tell you that this nation of heroes wasn’t being reduced to a supply country (adoption industry terminology for non-Western countries).
I wish I could tell you it isn’t true that adopted children are abused at higher rates than biological offspring.
Arm yourself with the truth, harsh as it may be, and know that the first generations of international class bastard adoptees have grown up and led the charge for THIS generation of adoptees.
Align yourself with us, support us, boost our signal, and I promise we will remake the world.
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