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BRAND X

Orphaned transracial international ungrateful insurgent Class Bastard.

Posts tagged white savior industrial complex

Sep 25 '14

Currently sick. When I’ve recovered, remind me to do a proper post debunking the myth that Black adoptees aren’t adopted as much as non-Black adoptees are.

The reason most international adoptions are not Black is NOT because white saviors don’t want Black children (antiblackness takes many insidious forms and one of them is the notion that Black children must be “saved” from their own birth families and communities and their cultures erased)

The biggest reason why most international adoptees are not Black is because native and diasporic Black peoples have historically led the charge for family preservation.

On an international scale, Africa has generally had the strictest (read: REASONABLE) regulations to safeguard against child trafficking and abuse.

I’m not saying that other continents and regions have been lax — people these days forget just how big and consequential the Cold War & anticommunism geopolitics were and still are, which accounts for Asia still being the #1 child “supply” region. South America and Eastern Europe’s histories are just as complicated.

But everyone keeps citing that one dumbshit white American “Freakonomics” dude whose data doesn’t even cover the U.S., just one conveniently narrow domestic instance in a country that’s the biggest child “receiver” nation in entire world. Ugh.

unsungvoicesexperience ILU. X

(Source: brandx)

Sep 14 '14
seekingwillow:

king-emare:

onlyblackgirl:

pastel-gizibe:

note-a-bear:

the-chandelier-swing:

blackfemalepresident:

steppauseturnpausepivotstepstep:

brandx:



U.S. Mother Gives Away 5-Year-Old Adopted Child From Haiti For Throwing Temper Tantrum




"Having an instant multicultural family was magical for about two weeks,” says Stacey Conner, a 41-year-old American mom from Spokane, Washington.
After she volunteered in an orphanage in Haiti in 2005, Conner and her husband adopted a 5-year-old Haitian boy named “J.”
Conner claims the boy had attachment disorder and began a strict regimen of attachment parenting of constant surveillance in which a child must often ask for food and water. After two months, J threw a tantrum where he unintentionally hit Conner’s nose with the back of his head.
Conner says the 5-year-old’s strike was accidental, but describes it as “a domestic violence situation. Forget love. Right then, I didn’t even like J.”

J was sent to live with another family in the Midwest. Conner’s biological children adjusted seamlessly to life without their adoptive brother. But other people were puzzled. Neighbors who had seen J riding his bike asked, “Where’s your son?” When Conner answered truthfully, “I’d get the most horrified stares, so I’d keep walking. And I didn’t tell many out-of-town friends or extended family for months.”

Despite such events, the Conners were approved by local social workers to become a foster family, and in October 2013 received a 3-month-old boy as their first placement.

Sources: [x] [x]


white people will let their white kids karate chop them in the throat and call them names in public, but a black child becomes naturally upset after you treat the kid like a grown criminal/animal and you just give them away. go it. sounds reasonable.

"i’d get the most horrified stares"geewonder why

This is why we don’t trust y’all white savior “oh check out this profile pic of me and these smiling poor brown children. You can tell I really made a difference” asses

The fact that for the most part these people are allowed to do shit like this with no legal punishment or recourse on behalf of the children being abused is mind boggling.

She literally treated that child like a dog.
Actually no, she’d probably treat a dog better.
Accidents like that happen all the time with children, and her first instinct is to stop loving the child and give it away?
I can’t.
I hope that beautiful boy is okay, and with a family that treats him like gold.

Welcome to the adoption industry where they give zero fucks about the well being of the child.

smh

___
I see NO LIES to the amont of YT PPL bullshit. I will add one thing though. To be taken away from your birth family when you’re old enough to remember them and miss them and end up with a new family is TRAUMATIC - no matter what else may also have happened.
A bunch of these yt savior types are in NO WAY trained or prepared to deal with a child in trauma. On top of it, they expect the fawning gratitude of an adult who knows the game AND who’s DECIDED to play along. And then they have the nerve to call not respecting a child’s trauma, their personal and physical boundaries and letting them have a chance to be themselves? ‘Attachment Disorder’.
Yt ppl can be there for their own children, can be there in  remote way for other people’s murdering and/or mass shooter, mass massacre children - as long as the general consensus (esp as framed by news media) is that the multiple murderer never gave their parents any much trouble and was quiet and respectful (Though how respectful is murder, really?).
But let them ‘designer shop’ for a child, like in the days of slavery of wanting a human pet to look nice enough and perform tricks and reflect on them and said ‘purchase’ does not turn out the way they want? They fall to this; “I”ll MAKE your ass grovel’ - ask me for food and water or get nothing, bullshit.” At what point ever does anyone in their right mind make an infant beg for something? Why make a toddler or a pre-schooler?
If these children were ‘animals’? They’d be advised to take things slow and EARN trust, let the animal feel settled; lots of talk of ‘forever homes’. But it’s a child and not a pet refusing to snuggle all up on you and you’re gonna intimidate a sense of family into them??!!
And I’ll admit 90% of the time that child is a black or brown child, but I won’t ignore how they treat white seeming children from other countries - how they adopt Russian children not even speaking the language and then send them back like broken toys. But it’s the black and brown kids they ‘pass around’ and ‘rehome’.
REHOME.
Y’all don’t want to get me into ranting on this, cause I’ve been looking this shit up more than half a year.
Y’know what’s even more heinous? Pets; dogs and cats? Have all sorts of ‘Rescue’ Groups, which will come up in your house to determine if you’re a good fit for an animal, as much as any SPCA (or responsible breeder). But they rehome children via the effing internet; through list groups, email lists, Craig’s list, facebook page groups and more.
They list CHILDREN as; “Cute little brown boy but obstinate and willful, may bite or smack.”
Tell me, TELL ME that isn’t the old ‘slave for sale’ in the newspapers. I swear only yt ppl will tell me they aren’t being smacked in the face by history.
Never trust yt adoptive parents. Just, never trust them. I’m not saying other types may not have their problems. But yt adoptive parents (as a whole) of overseas, especially black and brown children are living out a slavery fantasy whether or not they want to consciously admit it. “Look at what I picked up from Haiti / Guatemala /  China, isn’t he or she just darling, look what they can do. They’re nothing like that poor choice so and so made, she had to send that one back / rehome that child - who’d want that in their house’.
I can’t even people. Cannot even.
There is documented proof, there will be documented proof for years, of how yt ppl will claim to open their arms, hearts and homes to an individual and how it doesn’t mean shit due to their me vs them, us vs them mentality.  You better be asking how high on the way UP if they ask you to jump; don’t matter if you’re 2 or 20. Your life and sense of security don’t mean shit to them.
And it’s a whole other rant how black and brown families have been struggling for years to get kin foster care on the books and made a thing and have different necessary parenting classes since it starts off with a different relationship; how it’s taken YEARS for the infrastructure to conceed it’s in a child’s best interest to go to a grandmother, great aunt, uncle etc than complete strangers.
Yt ppl gave up their sense of community, real community in order to be yt; cause they were emulating the upper crust who have money to fall back on, and thus can ‘buy’ servants and don’t need to invest in community and be invested in in turn.

Reblogging for commentary. ^ X

seekingwillow:

king-emare:

onlyblackgirl:

pastel-gizibe:

note-a-bear:

the-chandelier-swing:

blackfemalepresident:

steppauseturnpausepivotstepstep:

brandx:

U.S. Mother Gives Away 5-Year-Old Adopted Child From Haiti For Throwing Temper Tantrum

"Having an instant multicultural family was magical for about two weeks,” says Stacey Conner, a 41-year-old American mom from Spokane, Washington.

After she volunteered in an orphanage in Haiti in 2005, Conner and her husband adopted a 5-year-old Haitian boy named “J.”

Conner claims the boy had attachment disorder and began a strict regimen of attachment parenting of constant surveillance in which a child must often ask for food and water. After two months, J threw a tantrum where he unintentionally hit Conner’s nose with the back of his head.

Conner says the 5-year-old’s strike was accidental, but describes it as “a domestic violence situation. Forget love. Right then, I didn’t even like J.”

J was sent to live with another family in the Midwest. Conner’s biological children adjusted seamlessly to life without their adoptive brother. But other people were puzzled. Neighbors who had seen J riding his bike asked, “Where’s your son?” When Conner answered truthfully, “I’d get the most horrified stares, so I’d keep walking. And I didn’t tell many out-of-town friends or extended family for months.”
Despite such events, the Conners were approved by local social workers to become a foster family, and in October 2013 received a 3-month-old boy as their first placement.
Sources: [x] [x]

white people will let their white kids karate chop them in the throat and call them names in public, but a black child becomes naturally upset after you treat the kid like a grown criminal/animal and you just give them away. go it. sounds reasonable.

"i’d get the most horrified stares"
gee
wonder why

This is why we don’t trust y’all white savior “oh check out this profile pic of me and these smiling poor brown children. You can tell I really made a difference” asses

The fact that for the most part these people are allowed to do shit like this with no legal punishment or recourse on behalf of the children being abused is mind boggling.

She literally treated that child like a dog.

Actually no, she’d probably treat a dog better.

Accidents like that happen all the time with children, and her first instinct is to stop loving the child and give it away?

I can’t.

I hope that beautiful boy is okay, and with a family that treats him like gold.

Welcome to the adoption industry where they give zero fucks about the well being of the child.

smh

___

I see NO LIES to the amont of YT PPL bullshit. I will add one thing though. To be taken away from your birth family when you’re old enough to remember them and miss them and end up with a new family is TRAUMATIC - no matter what else may also have happened.

A bunch of these yt savior types are in NO WAY trained or prepared to deal with a child in trauma. On top of it, they expect the fawning gratitude of an adult who knows the game AND who’s DECIDED to play along. And then they have the nerve to call not respecting a child’s trauma, their personal and physical boundaries and letting them have a chance to be themselves? ‘Attachment Disorder’.

Yt ppl can be there for their own children, can be there in  remote way for other people’s murdering and/or mass shooter, mass massacre children - as long as the general consensus (esp as framed by news media) is that the multiple murderer never gave their parents any much trouble and was quiet and respectful (Though how respectful is murder, really?).

But let them ‘designer shop’ for a child, like in the days of slavery of wanting a human pet to look nice enough and perform tricks and reflect on them and said ‘purchase’ does not turn out the way they want? They fall to this; “I”ll MAKE your ass grovel’ - ask me for food and water or get nothing, bullshit.” At what point ever does anyone in their right mind make an infant beg for something? Why make a toddler or a pre-schooler?

If these children were ‘animals’? They’d be advised to take things slow and EARN trust, let the animal feel settled; lots of talk of ‘forever homes’. But it’s a child and not a pet refusing to snuggle all up on you and you’re gonna intimidate a sense of family into them??!!

And I’ll admit 90% of the time that child is a black or brown child, but I won’t ignore how they treat white seeming children from other countries - how they adopt Russian children not even speaking the language and then send them back like broken toys. But it’s the black and brown kids they ‘pass around’ and ‘rehome’.

REHOME.

Y’all don’t want to get me into ranting on this, cause I’ve been looking this shit up more than half a year.

Y’know what’s even more heinous? Pets; dogs and cats? Have all sorts of ‘Rescue’ Groups, which will come up in your house to determine if you’re a good fit for an animal, as much as any SPCA (or responsible breeder). But they rehome children via the effing internet; through list groups, email lists, Craig’s list, facebook page groups and more.

They list CHILDREN as; “Cute little brown boy but obstinate and willful, may bite or smack.”

Tell me, TELL ME that isn’t the old ‘slave for sale’ in the newspapers. I swear only yt ppl will tell me they aren’t being smacked in the face by history.

Never trust yt adoptive parents. Just, never trust them. I’m not saying other types may not have their problems. But yt adoptive parents (as a whole) of overseas, especially black and brown children are living out a slavery fantasy whether or not they want to consciously admit it. “Look at what I picked up from Haiti / Guatemala /  China, isn’t he or she just darling, look what they can do. They’re nothing like that poor choice so and so made, she had to send that one back / rehome that child - who’d want that in their house’.

I can’t even people. Cannot even.

There is documented proof, there will be documented proof for years, of how yt ppl will claim to open their arms, hearts and homes to an individual and how it doesn’t mean shit due to their me vs them, us vs them mentality.  You better be asking how high on the way UP if they ask you to jump; don’t matter if you’re 2 or 20. Your life and sense of security don’t mean shit to them.

And it’s a whole other rant how black and brown families have been struggling for years to get kin foster care on the books and made a thing and have different necessary parenting classes since it starts off with a different relationship; how it’s taken YEARS for the infrastructure to conceed it’s in a child’s best interest to go to a grandmother, great aunt, uncle etc than complete strangers.

Yt ppl gave up their sense of community, real community in order to be yt; cause they were emulating the upper crust who have money to fall back on, and thus can ‘buy’ servants and don’t need to invest in community and be invested in in turn.

Reblogging for commentary. ^ X

Sep 14 '14

i-heal-miraculously asked:

Sorry for all the assholes shiting on you :( you do such an amazing job & I learned so much from following you! Thanks for that!!

I get so many msgs like this, but I know you’ve been following me for a while so I’ll dignify yours with a response:

People of colour are not your teaching tools. ESPECIALLY not adopted orphans of colour.

It is NOT my intention much less my “job” to educate whites and non-adoptees.

The tasks of unmaking and shedding light on oppression should NEVER be relegated to the oppressed people.

Using me as a source for your benefit and saying "sorry for all the assholes shitting on you,” yet failing to publicly call out the other white bio spawn doing aforementioned shitting is actually terribly rude of you. Your thanks is ultimately nothing but misguided entitlement.

I keep track of my real allies who use my content freely to become better informed themselves, then come collect their own when I make clear that white folks/bio spawn are attacking me.

And if you reduce these truths to an “angry" refusal to educate you, then you were never a trustworthy potential ally to begin with.

Sep 13 '14

99% of media portrayals of adopted kids

  • scenario 1: no problems ever! graciously rescued from a broken home/impoverished or war-torn country! unquestioningly grateful and indebted to their adoptive family! has nothing but 100% good things to say about being adopted, all the time!
  • scenario 2: absolutely miserable. aggressively resentful of adopted family and of their adoption. will petulantly respond to even the most gentle of requests with proclamations of "you're not my real family!" usually a rebel/delinquent/generally maladjusted and sometimes even violent.
  • The other 1%? Aliens. Seriously.
Sep 13 '14
"Christ the Redeemer, Blessed, John Evangelist, The Lord Our Savior, Trinity."

The names of churches on your block? Nope. Just the names of slave ships that made over 40,000 trips back and forth across the Atlantic during the Trans Atlantic slave trade. The LARGEST FORCED MIGRATION IN HUMAN HISTORY. (via howtobeterrell)

i thought this was a joke or a mistake. and then i looked it up. and it’s not. and WHAT THE ACTUAL HELL?

(via christel-thoughts)

Sep 13 '14

shining-latios asked:

I'm so disgusted by the disproportionate amount of people whining in the notes on your post about the Haitian boy who was given up about "not all white people". They had the god damn nerve to look at the source material and ONLY choose to cherrypick the people going "white people are awful", yell at them because their precious egos were hurt, and ignore the damn point of the post entirely. I am so incredibly disgusted.

Heh. The latest accusation is that I’m “trying to cause trouble" with my coverage of adopted child trafficking that (unlike that “Good Housekeeping” trash mag) isn’t some abuse apologist defense of a racist American who has a history of hurting animals.

White feelings > the lives of orphaned children of color
Must be a day that ends in ‘y’.

Sep 9 '14

hey adoptee & foster kid allies!

I’m been getting mad shit from antiblack abuse apologists people trying to justify the actions of Stacey Conner, that white American mother who gave away her adopted 5-year old Haitian child and claimed she suffered "domestic abuse" at his hands.

Of course they claim to be unbiased fact-checkers in search of “the whole story,” all the while remaining conveniently ignorant of all pertinent facts to the growing epidemic of adoptive child trading abuse and in the U.S.,

From When Children Are Traded, published November 20, 2013 in The New York Times:

[TRIGGER WARNING: sexual assault, child abuse] This is “private re-homing,” something that once meant finding a new home for a dog that barked too much. Now it refers to families recycling their adopted children, often through Internet postings.

There are commonly no courts involved, no lawyers, no social service agencies and no vetting of the new parents. There’s less formality than the transfer of a car.

Private re-homing of adoptive children was explored in a devastating five-part investigative series this fall from Reuters. The reporters found that on one Yahoo message board, a child was offered for re-homing on average once a week (Yahoo has since closed the board). Most of the children ranged in age from 6 to 14 and had been adopted abroad, but some were American-born.

When one troubled Russian girl was 12 years old, she was re-homed three times within six months and told Reuters that, by the time she was 13, a boy at one of the homes had sex with her — and then urinated on her.

A Chinese girl crippled by polio ended up in a home where a woman with an explosive temper was eventually overseeing 18 children. The girl says that the woman confiscated her leg brace, which she needed to walk. And, according to court records, the woman, as a form of punishment, once ordered her to dig a hole in the backyard — for her own grave.

“You die here and no one will know,” the Chinese girl quoted the woman as saying. “No one will find you.”

But instead of reading Reuters or the New York Times, these antiblack racists “objective” bloggers keep relying on that one Good Housekeeping magazine interview (LOL of all sources).

post-buster, which exclusively promotes itself as a “fact checking” tumblr, is the most recent culprit in the vilification of an abused 5-year old Black adopted orphan. They claim coverage of his mistreatment was  “exaggerated” and without “context,” and they focus on J.s “behavioral problems that made the mother fear for the safety of her other children.” They FAIL to acknowledge that the “attachment” abuse J. was subjected to for months where a child must ask for necessities like food and water, was the same kind that murdered 4-year old Cassandra Killpack, another Black adoptee branded with “reactive attachment disorder” and “emotional problems.”

post-buster encourages others to call them out when they fuck up. So I leave it to the allies of adoptees to step up now and do so.

Sep 2 '14

littlemissspoopy asked:

FUCK. Just holy FUCK? I read your posts about RAD and the linked articles. I had to stop about halfway to throw up and I just cried for the rest of it. How do these people exist? How can these things happen? HOW CAN THEY BE LET NEAR CHILDREN? I am trans and my partner and I would very much like children one day and I would quite like to adopt. I'm sorry, i don't really know what to say, this just really distresses me. Is there anything we can do?

Hey littlemissgataki.

This child advocacy organzation does a good job of answering the "how can this happen" and "how people who propagate life threatening torture are let near children" questions.

They have a simple but text heavy site. If you’re truly serious about adopting, I strongly recommend reading and processing ALL of it.

As for what you can do practically:

➊  Find out if your state/county’s tax dollars are going to any “RAD” programs or practitioners. If so, raise hell. Your fellow taxpayers probably wouldn’t be happy if they learn their money’s going to programs that withhold food, water, sleep, education, and oxygen from children, eh?

➋  Drive this into your brain and the brains of as many other people you can find remotely interested in adoption: There is no empirical scientific support for the popular notion that children with attachment problems grow up to become psychopaths or otherwise prey on society.
Practitioners of this torturous “attachment” BS sucker people in with claims that their “treatments” are the only kind that will work to keep a RAD child from turning into a knife-wielding sociopath.

➌  And of course listen to adoptees and support us. One of the few fellow survivors of RAD “therapy/parenting” I’ve been able to find is terriblegurl, who was told that her being gay is a symptom of attachment disorder.

X

Sep 2 '14

soy-un-madridista asked:

I feel like crying right now because so many white people adopt Haitians and its our biggest fear that they won't get love and respect and that they'll have no opportunity to learn about their culture and one day they'll just forget about it.

My heart goes out to you, truly, I wish I could offer comfort and say your fear was unjustified.

I wish I could tell you that Haiti isn’t a target of the Evangelical crusade to traffick and indocrinate children with Christianity.
I wish I could tell you that this nation of heroes wasn’t being reduced to a supply country (adoption industry terminology for non-Western countries).
I wish I could tell you it isn’t true that adopted children are abused at higher rates than biological offspring.

Arm yourself with the truth, harsh as it may be, and know that the first generations of international class bastard adoptees have grown up and led the charge for THIS generation of adoptees.
Align yourself with us, support us, boost our signal, and I promise we will remake the world.

"you take our children
from
their beds
and
our arms.
these are the same children.
who are going
to take
the world
away
from
you.”
Nayyirah Waheed
Sep 1 '14
"I wanna adopt a black baby and save them from the ghettos so I can give them a good life and let them experience being rich"

Third year biochem major (via shitrichcollegekidssay)

BUT WHY AREN’T YOU GRATEFUL?”