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BRAND X

Orphaned transracial international ungrateful insurgent Class Bastard.

Posts tagged transracial

Apr 19 '14
afrillisdark:

bankuei:

acceber74:

sasha-thumper:











4-Year Old U.S. Adoptee Killed by “Water Therapy”
[TRIGGER WARNING: child abuse, death] As his 4-year-old adopted daughter Cassandra lay dying, Richard Killpack blamed her condition on “emotional problems” and “a really bad case of RAD [Reactive Attachment Disorder]" in his 911 call.
Killpack and his wife Jenette had punished the child for sneaking sips of her sister’s drink by sitting her on a bar stool, tying her hands behind her back with the help of their biological daughter, and forcing her to drink a lethal amount of water.
EMTs found the child unconscious with distended belly and pink foam from her mouth. Medical examiners declared cause of death water intoxication, a condition in which over-abundance of water causes sodium levels in the body to drop, resulting in fatal swelling of the brain.
"I said, ‘You’ll have to go to Mom and do the drinking-water thing,’" the Killpacks’ biological daughter Heather said in a police interview. "She makes her drink ‘til she pukes."

The Killpacks insist they were using “water therapy” to cure their adopted child’s disorder, stating in TV appearances that under the rules set by attachment therapists, Cassandra had to ask for everything, including food and water, “to help her understand dependency, that her mom and dad loved her.”
Sources: CNN |ACT










I’m disgusted. And to top it off the parents’ names are “Killpack”, Jesus. 

Except you don’t get your children to you love you by having them beg for food and water.
What the fuck is wrong with these people???
ETA: The mother only served six years. The father was acquitted.  All because this four year old baby drank some of her [white] sister’s Kool-Aid. 
http://www.heraldextra.com/news/local/crime-and-courts/killpack-walks-free-after-six-years-in-prison/article_98cae908-515c-55f3-b040-9ee371e11fc6.html

the amount of incidents of horrific violence to adopted children of color… 

As a behavior therapist for autistic or other behavior problem kids…. When we want to prompt the kiddos to ask or say things. Like they want a drink. We hold the cup or cover it and look at them and say “have drink?” “Can I have some water?” “Juice?” (Depends on age) And say it enough until they repeat it. Once they repeat it they get the reward of having it. I understand the importance of negative reinforcement but I draw the line at abuse like this. It breaks my heart

Except Cassandra wasn’t autistic OR behaviorally challenged. She was simply adopted by violent shitheads who (like you) blithely conflate being adopted with “behavior problems.”
Your commentary is especially worthless and ableist in light of this. And your level of ignorance of the countless bio spawn child “experts” who feel the need to interject with irrelevant (and frankly suspect) bullshit to mitigate the literal child torture of adoptees doesn’t matter. You people are less than a dime a dozen, seriously.
I’m the OP, and you obviously have no awareness of how us international and transracial adoptees are so systemically gravely misdiagnosed as “behaviorally challenged,” “serial killers,” or the freaking Dark Lord. Sit down and shut your ignorant mouth. X

afrillisdark:

bankuei:

acceber74:

sasha-thumper:

4-Year Old U.S. Adoptee Killed by “Water Therapy”

[TRIGGER WARNING: child abuse, death] As his 4-year-old adopted daughter Cassandra lay dying, Richard Killpack blamed her condition on “emotional problems” and “a really bad case of RAD [Reactive Attachment Disorder]" in his 911 call.

Killpack and his wife Jenette had punished the child for sneaking sips of her sister’s drink by sitting her on a bar stool, tying her hands behind her back with the help of their biological daughter, and forcing her to drink a lethal amount of water.

EMTs found the child unconscious with distended belly and pink foam from her mouth. Medical examiners declared cause of death water intoxication, a condition in which over-abundance of water causes sodium levels in the body to drop, resulting in fatal swelling of the brain.

"I said, ‘You’ll have to go to Mom and do the drinking-water thing,’" the Killpacks’ biological daughter Heather said in a police interview. "She makes her drink ‘til she pukes."

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The Killpacks insist they were using “water therapy” to cure their adopted child’s disorder, stating in TV appearances that under the rules set by attachment therapists, Cassandra had to ask for everything, including food and water, “to help her understand dependency, that her mom and dad loved her.”

Sources: CNN |ACT

I’m disgusted. And to top it off the parents’ names are “Killpack”, Jesus. 

Except you don’t get your children to you love you by having them beg for food and water.

What the fuck is wrong with these people???

ETA: The mother only served six years. The father was acquitted.  All because this four year old baby drank some of her [white] sister’s Kool-Aid. 

http://www.heraldextra.com/news/local/crime-and-courts/killpack-walks-free-after-six-years-in-prison/article_98cae908-515c-55f3-b040-9ee371e11fc6.html

the amount of incidents of horrific violence to adopted children of color… 

As a behavior therapist for autistic or other behavior problem kids…. When we want to prompt the kiddos to ask or say things. Like they want a drink. We hold the cup or cover it and look at them and say “have drink?” “Can I have some water?” “Juice?” (Depends on age) And say it enough until they repeat it. Once they repeat it they get the reward of having it. I understand the importance of negative reinforcement but I draw the line at abuse like this. It breaks my heart

Except Cassandra wasn’t autistic OR behaviorally challenged. She was simply adopted by violent shitheads who (like you) blithely conflate being adopted with “behavior problems.”

Your commentary is especially worthless and ableist in light of this. And your level of ignorance of the countless bio spawn child “experts” who feel the need to interject with irrelevant (and frankly suspect) bullshit to mitigate the literal child torture of adoptees doesn’t matter. You people are less than a dime a dozen, seriously.

I’m the OP, and you obviously have no awareness of how us international and transracial adoptees are so systemically gravely misdiagnosed as “behaviorally challenged,” “serial killers,” or the freaking Dark Lord. Sit down and shut your ignorant mouth. X

Apr 13 '14
lakotapeopleslawproject:

53% of #SouthDakota's foster children are #Lakota, even though only 12% of children are Lakota. Grandmothers are illegally denied custody of their grandchildren everyday. This injustice has been going on for decades, and stretches far beyond current Governor Daugaard.The answer is tribal foster care programs- and ending the payday for state officials. Learn more:http://lakota.cc/IIaGPC

lakotapeopleslawproject:

53% of #SouthDakota's foster children are #Lakota, even though only 12% of children are Lakota. Grandmothers are illegally denied custody of their grandchildren everyday. 
This injustice has been going on for decades, and stretches far beyond current Governor Daugaard.
The answer is tribal foster care programs- and ending the payday for state officials. Learn more:http://lakota.cc/IIaGPC

Apr 2 '14

quiltbagging asked:

But I was hoping you could point me towards transracial adoptee communities (forums or whatever) where I can read about peoples' experiences with these things. Also i would be very grateful any resources on decolonizing one's mind. I know you're not paid to do this so please don't feel obligated if none of this is inconvenient for you.

bastardplanet has covered every single issue & occurrence that every other adoptee/adoption reform org I’ve ever met (and I’ve run through MANY) either refuses to face or doesn’t know enough about. It’s also the most global community I’ve seen, great for us international bastards.

Of course, region specific communities can be great— there are a tonne of real life adoptee communities and meetups concentrated in different cities and regions all over the world, but I don’t know if you’re looking for RL groups?

Gazillion Voices is from the now inactive Land of Gazillion Adoptees. U.S.-based but not U.S.-centric. More of a publication than community/forum, but discussion is encouraged and often decent, sometimes helpful.

As for resources on decolonizing our minds, I don’t think one can do better than following fellow transracial and transethnic adoptees: fifthblackbird, amazing-how-you-love, indigoradix, dickensianwerewolf, and peaceshannon all put in glorious work and publish regularly.

On that note — not to toot my own horn, but this is literally my 7,000th post. Happy anniversary to me! X

Mar 29 '14
""Ethnic" whites are still white. White Jews are still white. So are white muslims. White privilege is white privilege is white privilege. You can experience anti-Semitism or xenophobia or religious persecution and still be white. Remember intersectionality?
Like it or not, you are excluded from or consumed into whiteness based on things that have little to do with your own personal racial identification or cultural heritage. That’s how whiteness operates. It consolidates its power by stretching to contain as many disparate people as possible, to make itself a false majority, and then it makes membership so attractive and otherness so abhorrant that the power structure upholds itself."

Ttssgg (via indigoradix)

This is why it is so crucial to distinguish between transracial adoption and transethnic adoption.

Transethnic adoptees experience the profound loss of heritage and erasure of identity, but they also benefit from white privilege in ways that transracial adoptees never can.

(via bastardplanet)

Mar 26 '14

peaceshannon:

in regards to hyunsu’s murder, holt is now publicly saying that the bruises on hyunsu’s body could be “MONGOLIAN SPOTS” or BIRTH MARKS - audacious claims considering the AUTOPSY found “a fracture at the base of skull, bruises to the forehead, swelling of the brain and wounds to other parts of the body..blunt impact to the back from a linear and triangular shaped object.”

but why wouldn’t holt be audacious? this isn’t the first time children who have been adopted through holt have been murdered by their adoptive parents. in 2008, when four korean children were murdered by their adoptive parents, holt’s response was: “Holt International Children’s Services investigated and found that the Sueppels were a very good family when the children were adopted. They had no criminal records. Mr. Sueppel’s parents and brothers had decent jobs.”

apparently if you have no criminal record and your parents and brothers have decent jobs… by holt’s standards, you are a “very good family” - NO! yes, there is abuse in biological families but we can’t screen biological families before they have children. however, we can and SHOULD screen adoptive families rigorously before we place children in their care. clearly, the screening process at holt (who placed hyunsu AND the four 2008 murder case victims) and catholic charities (the american agency hyunsu was placed through) is NOT working.

holt must take responsibility for its part in hyunsu’s death!!

Mar 20 '14
Mar 19 '14

Was that really necessary?

theadoptee-diaries:

So I was talking to my dad about how my friend couldn’t take her driving test because of some crazy accident thing that happened at the DMV before she got there. 

He found it necessary to start saying how “Asians are bad drivers. Sure, most of them are really smart, but they just can’t drive” and how the person must’ve been a white male cause if it was a POC or anyone else people would be like “oh poor minority!”. Then he started telling me how I need to start practicing driving more cause it’ll be “good for me”.

What the heck.

First of all, 

He doesn’t know the details. I looked it up, and it sounds like it was a teenage girl who just panicked during her driving test. So his assumption (aka stereotype) was wrong.

Secondly of all, and more importantly…

I love my dad and everything, but is he really that “colorblind” and ignorant to realize he basically insulted and stereotyped my race? Is he even thinking about how that might make me feel? To know that people are just gonna look at me and think “oh, bad Asian driver”? And that my dad might be one of those people? Whether their “good” or “bad” drivers, it is not okay to go blatantly stereotyping a group based on a few people. Or to go to talking to your POC daughter about how her own race isn’t good at something.

I already have a crappy confidence when it comes “proving” myself and being “enough” and trying not to be affected by stereotypes and stuff but really? This doesn’t help it at all.

He’s said things like this before (like with my extended family), and I just brushed it off. But now? Not cool. Badly done, dad.

I felt the need to post this. Because only you all would understand. It hurts to know that someone I love and care about make assumptions like these and then shares it to their daughter.

I don’t even know what to say or think .

^The “colorblindness” of white adoptive parents, yall.

Mar 17 '14

silversarcasm:

When watching a show I don’t think ‘Well politically correctly there should be two more minorities’

I’m thinking ‘This is suffocating, this isn’t what life is like, why do i not exist, why do my friends not exist, what the fuck is with this idealisation of one type of person?’

Mar 17 '14

quiltbagging asked:

Hi brandx, I'm a transracial and transnational adoptee and recently I've started thinking about what this means for my identity. And thanks to your blog I learned that my brother (adopted transnationally/transracially from a diff country than myself) was diagnosed with RAD. I don't know what to think about all this. (1/?)

Thank you so much for writing, always glorious to hear from fellow international transracial adoptees. And I’m sorry for my delayed response, but this was very hard for me to write —

There is no easy way to say this, but your brother’s life is in danger. I’m a RAD survivor, and despite there being thousands of kids all throughout the Western world who’ve been subjected to the treatment purporting to treat this disorder that violates every human rights charter & childrens rights convention on earth, our rate of survival is almost nil, particularly among transracial/national adoptees.

quiltbagging PLEASE message me with your brother’s age, your country of residence (I’m assuming both of you live in the same nation), and any other of crucial info of his such as other diagnosed disorders (real or perceived) so I’ll be able to assist you much more and help ensure his safety.

Mar 3 '14