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BRAND X

Orphaned transracial international ungrateful insurgent Class Bastard.

Posts tagged transethnic

Sep 30 '14

korwegianseoul:

Saw this posted….an adoptee is forbidden to learn his language where he is from as his adoptive father forbids it.  Normally I don’t use the term adoptive but in this case this father doesn’t deserve to be called a father with his narrow minded thinking!  

All adoptive parent’s please do not be like this prick of an adoptive dad. We as adoptees need to know about our history, our identity.  It doesn’t mean we are leaving you.  By doing this you are just pushing your adopted kid out of your family when all they needed was loving support. 

This is ethnocide, plain and simple.

Sep 21 '14

starlettohara:

brandx:

this-isnt-your-captain-speaking:

arbolitadelbosque:

Why I sideeye white people adopting children of different races

thisisnotafrica:

queerhairyvag:

catieissomethingcreative said: I kinda think that if you’re white and going to adopt a non-white child, you shouldn’t be a dick about it. That’s really it. Don’t congratulate yourself, don’t brag about it, just be a fucking parent.

^^^THIS^^^

Transracial adoption can seriously fuck you up and your white parents are all like, “but, but BUT I gave you everything! I’ve ALWAYS supported you!!!”

"But I can’t be racist - I have brown kids!"

But you’re told stories about family members concerned about “how brown is you’re going to be” and hear conversations about how “interracial marriages just don’t mix” and while at 9 you know, know, KNOW that you are expected to marry white. And you hear about how the Mexicans should go back to where they came from and as a Colombian you’re sitting in the back with Mexican, Peruvian and Guatemalan sibs wondering how that does not include all of you.

Then comes the day that you realize that the only reason you are worthy is because they changed everything about you and stamped you with their white last name. And that last name is a fucking weight to bear because you are expected to live up to their expectations, live up to the whiteness and deny, deny, deny everything else.

Until one day you don’t.

But even then - you still feel like a fraud, an interloper, an appropriator of a culture that should have been yours but was not. And continually having to work to dismantle the white supremacist thinking that you were brought up with - not just about all those other POCs out there but also about yourself.

Bolding that shit for emphasis.

Mundane bio spawn simply can’t cope with our complexity.

It’s either “shut up you’re WHITE on the inside you’re WESTERN you don’t know and can’t claim ANY of your birth hertiage”

or

"shut up you’re NOT WHITE you’re a FOREIGNER you don’t REALLY belong here and you can’t claim any of your adoptive heritage what about your ‘REAL’ family"

"you’re not actually colombian, you’re american” - literally everyone over the age of 40 (older generations seem to have particular trouble grasping the concept of my ethno-racial identity) 

"but you’re basically white" - my well-meaning (adoptive) mom trying to make me feel better about my identity issues

"your parents did a very brave thing in bringing you to this country. they saved your life. how does that make you feel?" - literally any time i went to a new elementary school when I was younger, ignorant as fuck people would tell me this and ask me invasive questions like that. Like who the fuck tells an 8 year old "if it wasn’t for your parents you would probably be begging on a street in Colombia somewhere"???

"no eres colombiana, eres gringa!" - p much every colombian native i met at smith, or on my study abroad program in costa rica. i didn’t stick around actual colombia long enough to see how i would be read there. 

"it would be weird to introduce you to my parents bc they think all hispanics are illegals lol" - UMASS bro I hooked up with for a hot second

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Sep 2 '14
"#200. I’ve recently learned I’m a Latina, Mediterranean, and Italian girl. It hurts that my white family, including my also adopted (but not biologically related to me) sister, all deny this from me. I want to learn more about my heritage, but I don’t even know if it would make me fake or not. Adoption is not bad; it can be absolutely wonderful. I just wish people who adopt or have adoptees in their family would let them learn about their heritage if the adoptee wants, and not make them feel like they have no right to. I don’t even know what I am. I’m just tired of people asking my parents or sister who I am or if I’m a family friend because unlike them, I have olive skin and dark curly hair."
Aug 31 '14

this-isnt-your-captain-speaking:

arbolitadelbosque:

Why I sideeye white people adopting children of different races

thisisnotafrica:

queerhairyvag:

catieissomethingcreative said: I kinda think that if you’re white and going to adopt a non-white child, you shouldn’t be a dick about it. That’s really it. Don’t congratulate yourself, don’t brag about it, just be a fucking parent.

^^^THIS^^^

Transracial adoption can seriously fuck you up and your white parents are all like, “but, but BUT I gave you everything! I’ve ALWAYS supported you!!!”

"But I can’t be racist - I have brown kids!"

But you’re told stories about family members concerned about “how brown is you’re going to be” and hear conversations about how “interracial marriages just don’t mix” and while at 9 you know, know, KNOW that you are expected to marry white. And you hear about how the Mexicans should go back to where they came from and as a Colombian you’re sitting in the back with Mexican, Peruvian and Guatemalan sibs wondering how that does not include all of you.

Then comes the day that you realize that the only reason you are worthy is because they changed everything about you and stamped you with their white last name. And that last name is a fucking weight to bear because you are expected to live up to their expectations, live up to the whiteness and deny, deny, deny everything else.

Until one day you don’t.

But even then - you still feel like a fraud, an interloper, an appropriator of a culture that should have been yours but was not. And continually having to work to dismantle the white supremacist thinking that you were brought up with - not just about all those other POCs out there but also about yourself.

Bolding that shit for emphasis.

Mundane bio spawn simply can’t cope with our complexity.

It’s either “shut up you’re WHITE on the inside you’re WESTERN you don’t know and can’t claim ANY of your birth hertiage”

or

"shut up you’re NOT WHITE you’re a FOREIGNER you don’t REALLY belong here and you can’t claim any of your adoptive heritage what about your ‘REAL’ family"

Aug 27 '14

onlyblackgirl:

I used to hate my name…

hahahahahahahahahahaga:

onlyblackgirl:

My birth mother gave me the name “Waykedria” but my white adoptive parents changed it to “Rebekah” because “Waykedria” was too abnormal for them and they could never spell it. They kept is as a middle name solely out of respect for my birth mother. I was also teased and called ghetto when I told…

You were adopted by white parents as a baby. Their culture is your culture because you were raised in their culture.

Quit appropriating black culture, you shitlord.

Go to sleep Gollum. 

hahaha white “CULTURE” hahahahahahahahaaa

Jul 17 '14
Jul 13 '14

#196.

confessions-of-an-adoptee:

I was trans-racially adopted with my twin brother. We’re 24 and we have never spoken about it. I want more than anything to reclaim my heritage, and am in the process of learning Spanish (albeit slowly), and am beginning to learn my history. I want to talk to my brother about this, because he’s the only person who understand the situation blow-for-blow. But I’m so afraid that he isn’t affected like I am. I’m afraid he’ll think I’m blowing it out of proportion. I’m scared and I can’t decide if I’m willing to breach that confrontation and risk finding out that my blood doesn’t empathize and that I am, truly, alone. And if he isn’t in the same boat I am, then I don’t know if I can ever seek out my birthmother. If I were to meet her, how could I ever say “Your son doesn’t want to meet you. I am here by myself.”

Jul 11 '14

dickensianwerewolf:

I think that’s what scariest about pro-lifers who insist that adoption is the solution to abortion. It’s eugenic, it’s racist, it’s about having total control over people you consider inferior. You decide if they have a child, you take the child away, you raise them in your own culture, you punish them very severely if they show allegiance to their heritage or are less than your ideal. It is terrifying rhetoric said with a smile, and it implies that all adoptees were potential abortions when many parents fight very hard to keep their children.

"Adoptees who are consciously dissociating themselves from their country of origin and see themselves as whites are interpreted as examples of successful adjustments, while interest in cultural heritage and biological roots is seen as an indication of poor mental health."
Tobias Hübinette

Jul 8 '14

ms-mix-remixed:

Okay but seriously let me ever meet a bitch that thinks that transracial is a legitimate thing like transgender

sistahmamaqueen:

b-binaohan:

ms-mix-remixed:

You wish you were ___________? You think it’s “cute” to be mixed?

Bitch please

Get your no-nothing white ass up out that chair at Starbucks and go talk to some mixed folk.

Talk to them about what it feels like to not look like what they think they should.

So I agree with the sentiment and all white people must be stopped 2K14, but transracial is a thing as in transracial adoptees, most often children of color adopted by white people.

So, it’d be great if you could ya’ know, get it right before making things hard for people who identify rightly with the word transracial.

Thanks!

Also I’m pretty sure the term ya’ll are looking for is transethnic?

I know that transracial is the word used to describe adoptions where the adoptee is a different race than their new family, and when I was writing this I did not conflate the two. Nor did I conflate the experiences of someone who is transracially adopted with the experiences of a white person who believes that they are another race “on the inside.” 

However, this does not mean that the way I chose to use my language in this post was appropriate or effective if those two experiences could be confused for one another or taken as the same or similar after reading this. I will make it a point to use transethnic from now on. 

I am extremely sorry if this post invalidated the experiences of any transracial adoptees: you are more than welcome to message me with any critiques or concerns regarding my language in this post.

Thanks for looking out,

Ms Mix

Transethnic is a legitimate term. It signifies adoptees who are (or can pass for) the same race as their adoptive family, but are of a different ethnicity. It encompasses every international adoption on the planet, and many domestic ones as well.

Its history dates back to World War II, but the terminology remains lesser known in North America, though increasing numbers of white & white-passing adoptees there are identifying with it as they discover and reclaim their birth heritage. It’s very common for children to be trafficked/coerced from indigenous nations, then passed off by agencies as “Italian” or “French Canadian” in order to avoid the Indian Child Welfare Act and other protective regulations.

Your apology is appreciated and you seem like a class act, so I’ll take the time to inform you that by posting “TRANSRACIAL/ETHNIC ISN’T A LEGIT THING” without so much as mentioning adoptees (we really are sick of these common-as-dirt posts by now kthnx), you’re actually aiding the racist spawn who’ve hijacked our terms and contributing to the oppressively bullshit notion that adoptees who are ‘transracial’ are “white on the inside.

And unless you’re posting adoption related-content, please stay out of the #transracial and #transethnic tags. Most of us are raised in all-white areas, and for many the internet is still the ONLY means of connecting with fellow POC and adoptees. X

May 30 '14
lakotapeopleslawproject:

In #SouthDakota, many #Lakota foster children who age out of state facilities are given a few hundred bucks on their eighteenth birthday and dropped off at this market.We can end this. #OurChildrenAreSacredWATCH and SHARE the video at: www.LakotaLaw.org/Life
Learn more at http://lakotalaw.org/our-children-are-sacred

lakotapeopleslawproject:

In #SouthDakota, many #Lakota foster children who age out of state facilities are given a few hundred bucks on their eighteenth birthday and dropped off at this market.
We can end this. #OurChildrenAreSacred

WATCH and SHARE the video at: www.LakotaLaw.org/Life

Learn more at http://lakotalaw.org/our-children-are-sacred