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I’m all about unforgiving and hating and holding grudges because it keeps me safe and mentally healthy and I don’t care about your stupid feel-good quotes about forgiving everyone everywhere always so you can take your feel-good emotionally manipulative apologist bullshit and shove it
have fun with that.
this attitude is a piece of shit and I doubt you’ll be mentally healthy if you allow yourself to fill with poisonous hatred and grudges toward everyone and never forgive and just be a bitter nasty person
And herein lies the problem with the way we construct ‘healing’ in this fucked up society.
People are honestly led to believe that there’s some kind of binary between ‘people who hate’ and ‘people who don’t.
As if you can’t feel legitimate anger that does not go away toward particular individuals who have harmed you and yet still be loving and caring and friendly and forgiving and supporting to -other people entirely- who have not harmed you, or have only done so in superficial ways because they’re fallible humans.
Nope, that’s silly. Clearly if you hate anyone, you must hate everyone and be a seething hate ball. Better pressure everyone to be a ball of warm loving giving peaceful high-road-taking light and joy at all times. Wouldn’t want to validate a survivor’s emotional response to trauma or let them know that the coping skills they’ve developed to keep themselves safe and keep the people who harmed them from creeping back into their lives are acceptable in any way. That might allow them to feel some kind of closure or safety, and we can’t have that.
Could you please post a link to the article where you got the information from about the 7 year old who was beaten to death? Or is it all in the CNN transcript? I'm sorry -- not very much is coming up on Google. This information needs to be shared, it's so terrible :(
My information on Lydia Schatz is from real life connections with my child advocacy NGO work as a survivor of the ethnocidal “therapy/parenting” that demonizes and murders adoptees and foster kids, but much of what I posted about her on tumblr can be obtained from that linked CNN “Beaten to Death in the Name of God” transcript, yes.
There’s a Wikipedia article on Lydia Schatz that should be in the top Google results (um, it’s the very first one when I type in her name) that lists 10 different news article references. All linked and available online.
you know you are a survivor when feel guilty for literally the stupidest things — things that arent your fault, too, because someone has manipulated you into thinking that it is.
I apologize for everything you had to go through! Children deserve better your blog is amazing!
Aww. T’weren’t your doing, cutie pie.
Oh! And remember, ladies:
“As for the problem of the unmarried mother… if she has… been able to give away the living symbol of her ‘sin’ or ‘mistake’… she is ‘solved’ as a social problem… If she keeps her child and requires economic aids for the support of herself and child, she is not ‘paying’.’”
—“Unmarried Mothers,” Social Work & Social Problems, Nathan E. Cohen, Editor
and this white savior piece of shit who thinks that infertility entitles First Worlders(tm) to other people’s children from nations they’ve colonized and committed genocide in
It’s time to come collect your own.
That means that if you are a genuine ally of internationally adopted orphans (both legitimate and falsified), you will educate them and help defend me.
It is not my job, as someone who survived the systemic child abuse that especially targets transracial and Third World(tm) adoptees like Cassandra Killpack, to have to educate my oppressors. That’s where allies come in.
Because these people are currently attacking me with the kind of outrage that only people who hold dear the white savior industrial complex can possess — there’s just something about the truth that it kidnaps and tortures children that makes them turn on any survivors of said kidnapping and torture.
After all, if we’re silenced, they don’t have to be confronted with living proof.
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