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Orphaned transracial international ungrateful insurgent Class Bastard.

Posts tagged orphan

Apr 2 '14

The Evangelical Orphan Boom
Christian advocates of transnational adoption often claim some 150 million children need homes — even though that figure, derived from a UNICEF report, includes all non-Western children who have lost only one parent, and also any children who live with extended family.  
Evangelicals from the Bible Belt to Southern California don wristbands or T-shirts reading “orphan addict” or “serial adopter.” Ministries have emerged to raise money and award grants to help Christians pay the fees (some $30,000 on average, plus travel) associated with transnational adoption.
However well intended, this enthusiasm has exacerbated what has become a boom-and-bust market for children that leaps from country to country. In many cases, the influx of money has created incentives to establish or expand orphanages — and identify children to fill them. 
The potential for fraud and abuse is high. Of course, adoption problems aren’t limited to Christian agencies, and they don’t originate with them, but some movement insiders say that evangelicals — whether driven by zeal or naïveté — have had a disproportionate impact on the international adoption system.

The Evangelical Orphan Boom

Christian advocates of transnational adoption often claim some 150 million children need homes — even though that figure, derived from a UNICEF report, includes all non-Western children who have lost only one parent, and also any children who live with extended family.

Evangelicals from the Bible Belt to Southern California don wristbands or T-shirts reading “orphan addict” or “serial adopter.” Ministries have emerged to raise money and award grants to help Christians pay the fees (some $30,000 on average, plus travel) associated with transnational adoption.

However well intended, this enthusiasm has exacerbated what has become a boom-and-bust market for children that leaps from country to country. In many cases, the influx of money has created incentives to establish or expand orphanages — and identify children to fill them.

The potential for fraud and abuse is high. Of course, adoption problems aren’t limited to Christian agencies, and they don’t originate with them, but some movement insiders say that evangelicals — whether driven by zeal or naïveté — have had a disproportionate impact on the international adoption system.

Mar 29 '14

(Source: youngnapoleon)

Mar 17 '14

analogbrain:

The best thing about being an orphan is…tricked you. There isn’t that much great about being an orphan. Contrary to what disney would like you to believe, there is no singing, dancing, or helpful forest creatures that join you in song as you go through your life.

It’s a lot of pain no one gets.

The only people who will understand what it means to be an orphan are those of us who are also “class bastards”—fucked over by adoption agencies that prevent us from finding our origins, fucked over by the foster care system who just sees us as numbers and statistics, “parents” who are abusive but get the clearance to adopt us anyways …the list goes on.

Class bastards, don’t give up and i won’t give up either. The odds are stacked against us but we are many. And together we are strong.

Mar 2 '14

ulenahidvayoli:

i’ve been procrastinating on studying for midterms by researching canonization and patronage, and i learned that St. Kateri Tekakwitha, the only canonized First Nations saint, is a patron saint of loss of parents.  it’s probably because she lost her parents at the age of 4 to a smallpox epidemic, but i keep wavering between it seeming really fitting for Split Feathers in a way and it being a cruel joke of the Catholic Church  

Damn, wouldn’t put it past them. The Catholic Church has instituted and overseen child trafficking in nearly every region they held power, with the most concentrated kidnappings definitely being in North America against First Nations peoples, and in continental Europe against Romani peoples.

Mar 2 '14

dickensianwerewolf:

mer-mage:

dickensianwerewolf:

mer-mage:

The fact that I have to put my dad on FAFSA even though he doesn’t pay for my school anymore is precisely why I’m so damn broke all the time ;_;

I spent the first few years after I left my adopted family’s house only taking one or two classes a term because I couldn’t get her signature on her tax info for FAFSA. The first term that I had left, I tried to do things the usual way, but she refused to sign the papers unless I came back.

That’s so fucking infuriating. They really need to update their methods of calculating whether or not we can afford school.

They set that up and put an age limit of 24 because the assumption that mommy and daddy are paying for school up to that point is super convenient. They get to pretend people without parents, or with estranged parents, don’t exist and so they don’t have to give these nonexistent people money. You can tell the government you’re independent from your parents so you can file without their info, but it’s a lot of work, and pretty nonsensical for an adult to do. Meanwhile, they can explain away this gatekeeping by telling anyone who asks that it’s to keep rich people from cheating the system. Like they ever care about THAT.

(Source: princelawliet)

Feb 18 '14

ladygreyheart:

the saddest thought I’ve had today is that I literally have to have headcanons about my biological mother and her life like she was a fictional character

Feb 1 '14
Jan 30 '14

dickensianwerewolf:

People talk a lot about wanting to save foster children and adoptees from lives of pain and torment, but then you have foster kids being aged out on to the streets when they come of age, RAD therapy consisting of just plain beating us up, and half the film and television plots out there either romanticizing us, sentimentalizing us, or using us as villains with Freudian excuses. So the general public view us as grandiose at best if we talk about our lives, or as pathetic or evil. Sometimes all three at once. That’s not even talking about the fuckery of how we wind up in the system, I’m just talking about what happens once we’re in. If you want to help us, think beyond taking us into your homes. Think about the laws that fuck up our lives and about the people that exploit us or make claims about us so they can freely abuse us.

No lies. X

Jan 30 '14
big-tapp:

brandx:

rivaisexual:

spindlebug:

prpltnkr:

This is too important for me not to mention.
This “Christian” child-rearing manual has led to at least three known deaths through child-abuse.
The book states: "Give 10 licks at a time, more if the child resists. Be careful about using it in front of others — even at church; nosy neighbors might call social workers."
This is literally a how-to manual on how to abuse and beat your children.
Sign this petition to have Amazon stop selling this hideous thing.

what????

OH MY GOD.  Okay stop scrolling and look at me.  My mother actually used this book.  I am a victim of this piece of literary evil, and let me tell you, it has left me with some seriously deep scars.  It got to the point that  my brother and I couldn’t even laugh.  Laughter was considered “foolishness” and we would literally be struck ten times for it if she heard it.  Let me reiterate that. 
We could not enjoy ourselves or even be happy without being beaten.
One of the “Christian” cult families introduced this to her and yes, it is basically condoning serious child abuse.  I actually personally believe in corporal punishment and let me tell you, THIS IS NOT CORPORAL PUNISHMENT.  It is heavy abuse and it’s evil, evil, evil.  I’m going to go sign that petition, and so help me, if you know of someone using this book, call Child Protective services immediately.  The children of that cult family are now actually being rehabilitated because they grew up like robots.  It’s a sick fucking book, okay? Sick.  Let’s get this thing banned before it ruins anymore lives. 
I am the way I am today because of this hideous thing.  I cry every time someone even gently reprimands me.  I’m afraid of cutting up in public because I think someone is going to hit me.  Worst of all: It taught me to tolerate abuse, that I deserved abuse, and that if someone abused me, I was clearly in the wrong.  I can’t possibly begin to tell you how dangerous it has been for me.  Thanks to people around me who were raised right, I am only now starting to learn to stand up for myself and that, no, I am not an idiot who deserves verbal, physical, emotional, or mental abuse.  I am not just a child who will forever be subject to her power-hungry mother.  
Most of all…  Children are not animals.  And really, who the fuck even treats an animal like that???  Please, if you reblog one thing from me, please let it be this.  I don’t want anyone else to go through what I did. 

People looking to put an end to these “Christian” child-rearing fatalities need to take into account Western Evangelicals’ highly subsidized agenda to adopt as many “orphans" as possible: "The ultimate purpose of human adoption by Christians is not to give orphans parents… It is to place them in a Christian home that they might be positioned to receive the gospel.”(Y’all are aware of the fact that Evangelicals co-founded the International Adoption Industry, right?)
This “Christian” parenting stresses obedience — “if you can’t obey your parents, how can you obey God?” And adoptees as a whole are pathologized as defiant, burgeoning psychopaths on account of our requisite traumatic orphanhood. Not to mention that we often hail from “heathen,” “devil-worshipping,” “Third World” regions used as missionary playgrounds to this day.
This is why of these known cases of children murdered by the Pearls’ “To Train Up a Child,” ALL of them are adoptees.
[TRIGGER WARNING: CHILD ABUSE, MURDER] Hana Williams, adopted from Ethiopia, beaten and killed at 13. Her adoptive brother Immanuel, also from Ethiopia, and also beaten, malnourished, and forced to sleep in the bathroom. Lydia Schatz, adopted from Liberia, beaten and killed at age 7. Sean Paddock, US adopted foster kid, beaten and killed at age 4. According to the prosecution at the Paddocks’ murder trial, Sean’s 9-year-old brother (also adopted) was beaten so badly he could barely walk.
While this book definitely needs to stop being sold, people should be aware that it and the Pearls are the tip of the iceberg:
The “Bibles” of the North American Adoption & Foster Care System
Adoption is a billion+ business and that procures millions of children worldwide — as such, survivors of such “parenting techniques” are actually quite common, it’s just that you never hear from us because A) no one listens to adoptees who don’t toe the line of White Christian Savior narratives "but why aren’t you GRATEFUL?" and B) Even fellow POC accuse us of “Oppression Olympics” if we so much as summarize our survival. This may be the last time I talk about this on tumblr personally because I am SICK TO DEATH of bio spawn presuming to know our lives while completely fucking dismissing the dangers we face.
So yeah, co-signed: if you reblog just one thing from me, reblog this post, with hyperlinks intact.

This whole thing literally describes my next door neighbors. They have (had) some adopted children who they would make sleep in bare rooms and wouldn’t feed them if they were “naughty.” They would make them walk to school while giving their non-adopted children rides, even in zero degree (or below) weather. They would make them wash the entire family’s laundry during the winter outside in below zero weather in buckets of water. These kids would get beaten if anyone from the neighborhood ever tried to help them or give them a ride home or anything.This book just reminds me of that family, thankfully my family has called the police and child protective services countless times, and the adopted kids are slowly being taken away from the family and given better lives.

Hats off to your family for intervening and not swallowing the bullshit surrounding “attachment disordered” children — thanks to blanketly accepted white savior narratives of adoption, most Western communities end up rallying around these abusers.
Glad those other adoptees got away from your neighbors. But don’t think for a second that there’s any guarantee that they’re somehow leading better lives. Most likely, they’re in an environment that’s similar or even worse. The lethal stigma against disrupted adoptees who are branded as “RAD” only INcreases, a propagation in which CPS is fully complicit. People & social workers can hardly comprehend our humanity from our just being orphaned — once we go through this shit, they flat out refuse to try.
The best a class bastard can hope for is to somehow make it to adulthood without getting murdered, jailed, or driven to suicide, and then embrace an entirely new identity (again). There are reasons why I’m more anonymous than most folks on tumblr. X

big-tapp:

brandx:

rivaisexual:

spindlebug:

prpltnkr:

This is too important for me not to mention.

This “Christian” child-rearing manual has led to at least three known deaths through child-abuse.

The book states: "Give 10 licks at a time, more if the child resists. Be careful about using it in front of others — even at church; nosy neighbors might call social workers."

This is literally a how-to manual on how to abuse and beat your children.

Sign this petition to have Amazon stop selling this hideous thing.

what????

OH MY GOD.  Okay stop scrolling and look at me.  My mother actually used this book.  I am a victim of this piece of literary evil, and let me tell you, it has left me with some seriously deep scars.  It got to the point that  my brother and I couldn’t even laugh.  Laughter was considered “foolishness” and we would literally be struck ten times for it if she heard it.  Let me reiterate that. 

We could not enjoy ourselves or even be happy without being beaten.

One of the “Christian” cult families introduced this to her and yes, it is basically condoning serious child abuse.  I actually personally believe in corporal punishment and let me tell you, THIS IS NOT CORPORAL PUNISHMENT.  It is heavy abuse and it’s evil, evil, evil.  I’m going to go sign that petition, and so help me, if you know of someone using this book, call Child Protective services immediately.  The children of that cult family are now actually being rehabilitated because they grew up like robots.  It’s a sick fucking book, okay? Sick.  Let’s get this thing banned before it ruins anymore lives. 

I am the way I am today because of this hideous thing.  I cry every time someone even gently reprimands me.  I’m afraid of cutting up in public because I think someone is going to hit me.  Worst of all: It taught me to tolerate abuse, that I deserved abuse, and that if someone abused me, I was clearly in the wrong.  I can’t possibly begin to tell you how dangerous it has been for me.  Thanks to people around me who were raised right, I am only now starting to learn to stand up for myself and that, no, I am not an idiot who deserves verbal, physical, emotional, or mental abuse.  I am not just a child who will forever be subject to her power-hungry mother.  

Most of all…  Children are not animals.  And really, who the fuck even treats an animal like that???  Please, if you reblog one thing from me, please let it be this.  I don’t want anyone else to go through what I did. 

People looking to put an end to these “Christian” child-rearing fatalities need to take into account Western Evangelicals’ highly subsidized agenda to adopt as many “orphans" as possible: "The ultimate purpose of human adoption by Christians is not to give orphans parents… It is to place them in a Christian home that they might be positioned to receive the gospel.”(Y’all are aware of the fact that Evangelicals co-founded the International Adoption Industry, right?)

This “Christian” parenting stresses obedience — “if you can’t obey your parents, how can you obey God?” And adoptees as a whole are pathologized as defiant, burgeoning psychopaths on account of our requisite traumatic orphanhood. Not to mention that we often hail from “heathen,” “devil-worshipping,” “Third World” regions used as missionary playgrounds to this day.

This is why of these known cases of children murdered by the Pearls’ “To Train Up a Child,” ALL of them are adoptees.

[TRIGGER WARNING: CHILD ABUSE, MURDER] Hana Williams, adopted from Ethiopia, beaten and killed at 13. Her adoptive brother Immanuel, also from Ethiopia, and also beaten, malnourished, and forced to sleep in the bathroom. Lydia Schatz, adopted from Liberia, beaten and killed at age 7. Sean Paddock, US adopted foster kid, beaten and killed at age 4. According to the prosecution at the Paddocks’ murder trial, Sean’s 9-year-old brother (also adopted) was beaten so badly he could barely walk.

While this book definitely needs to stop being sold, people should be aware that it and the Pearls are the tip of the iceberg:

The “Bibles” of the North American Adoption & Foster Care System

Adoption is a billion+ business and that procures millions of children worldwide — as such, survivors of such “parenting techniques” are actually quite common, it’s just that you never hear from us because A) no one listens to adoptees who don’t toe the line of White Christian Savior narratives "but why aren’t you GRATEFUL?" and B) Even fellow POC accuse us of “Oppression Olympics” if we so much as summarize our survival. This may be the last time I talk about this on tumblr personally because I am SICK TO DEATH of bio spawn presuming to know our lives while completely fucking dismissing the dangers we face.

So yeah, co-signed: if you reblog just one thing from me, reblog this post, with hyperlinks intact.

This whole thing literally describes my next door neighbors. They have (had) some adopted children who they would make sleep in bare rooms and wouldn’t feed them if they were “naughty.” They would make them walk to school while giving their non-adopted children rides, even in zero degree (or below) weather. They would make them wash the entire family’s laundry during the winter outside in below zero weather in buckets of water. These kids would get beaten if anyone from the neighborhood ever tried to help them or give them a ride home or anything.

This book just reminds me of that family, thankfully my family has called the police and child protective services countless times, and the adopted kids are slowly being taken away from the family and given better lives.

Hats off to your family for intervening and not swallowing the bullshit surrounding “attachment disordered” children — thanks to blanketly accepted white savior narratives of adoption, most Western communities end up rallying around these abusers.

Glad those other adoptees got away from your neighbors. But don’t think for a second that there’s any guarantee that they’re somehow leading better lives. Most likely, they’re in an environment that’s similar or even worse. The lethal stigma against disrupted adoptees who are branded as “RAD” only INcreases, a propagation in which CPS is fully complicit. People & social workers can hardly comprehend our humanity from our just being orphaned — once we go through this shit, they flat out refuse to try.

The best a class bastard can hope for is to somehow make it to adulthood without getting murdered, jailed, or driven to suicide, and then embrace an entirely new identity (again). There are reasons why I’m more anonymous than most folks on tumblr. X

Jan 26 '14

aboundlesswombofcultivations:

dickensian-werewolf:

translucentwings:

solitarysmith:

translucentwings:

Am I the only adult adoptee who has a problem with this?

I don’t care that I’m queer. And we’re talking about the LGBTQ population.

People are not fucking candy. 

You don’t just cheer on handing them out: like “YAY!!! GIVE TO “THE GAYS!!!”

Why does a marginalized population think it is okay to discuss another marginalized population like this? 

Also, wtg demonizing the presumed straight people who “produced them”. 

-__-

Is this not proof of that entry I wrote a few months ago on queer adoptions NOT being better?

Wow. This is bad. Even for the LGBTQ community. This is fucking dire. This almost makes me be ashamed to be queer, even as far as I distance myself from attitudes like this and queer spaces where shit like this festers.

Why does a marginalized population think it is okay to discuss another marginalized population like this?

So many queer adopters have some of the highest toxicity of Saviour Syndrome and it doesn’t compute. How can they ever be considered decent - let alone “better” - when they perpetuate views like this. From what I see all the time, their attitudes are usually worse, and I can never understand how they feel so little empathy for another marginalised group, particularly one that has so much to do with denying natural identity. You’d think they’d try and understand.

Nevermind that the ones they want are only “abandoned” because entitled people like this lie, cheat and steal to get their hands on them. And I don’t even want to touch the line shaming and demonising the presumed straight families of these “orphans”. I’d feel dirty.

People are not fucking candy. I couldn’t have said it better.

^Word. Bolded the bits I really relate to.

Also, check how many reblogs this thing got? Makes me feel kind of sick when posts from transnational adoptees etc get maybe 100-200 reblogs at max. But, hey “free babies to the gays” and let’s all get behind it. 100,000+ reblogs behind it. 

Is it because of the fucking rainbow? Does the rainbow get it done? I mean us queer people are so happy right, so our needs are clearly worth more than fixing a massively fucked up system that strips people of their basic human connections to biological family? Violating identity rights, etc? Sure. As long as you keep ‘dem babies coming. 

Save the “gaybies” from entitled fucks!

Now that my gay mom’s wedding is past… The Oprah reference is the worst: babies are to consumers as are cars! Also, These people are such a straight person’s idea of “gay”. Camp is subversive of oppression. It does not oppress. Neither does it blind with sweatbands in hideous neon colors. I mean do they even lift?

lollll. A+ commentary from fellow adoptees above.

"Gayby" meme: yet another example of Western queers oppressing & stealing from women, especially WOC — hijacking a successful Black woman’s generosity, twisting it into an endorsement of a classist, COMPLETELY inaccurate white savior worldview & industry that victimizes Black women and children especially.

(Source: iwatchforsasha)