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BRAND X

Orphaned transracial international ungrateful insurgent Class Bastard.

Posts tagged orphan

Sep 14 '14

note to followers

the ONLY people I maintain this space for are myself (decolonizing my mind) and fellow orphans, adoptees, and foster kids.
And to a certain extent, POC and indigenous parents looking to protect their communities against ethnocidal “Kill the Native, Save the Child” programs both international and domestic.

If you belong to one of the aforementioned groups, feel free to get in touch. There are a surprising number of class bastards on here, which is glorious, but it can be hard to find peers because there aren’t so many who post about adoption and orphanhood, which is also cool though, you do YOU bbs. <3

If you don’t belong to one of the aforementioned groups, you’re welcome to introduce yourself, but I really don’t give a fig one way or the other if you stick around, and I definitely don’t care about educating you. Sorry not sorry. 
X

(Source: brandx)

Sep 14 '14

i-heal-miraculously asked:

Sorry for all the assholes shiting on you :( you do such an amazing job & I learned so much from following you! Thanks for that!!

I get so many msgs like this, but I know you’ve been following me for a while so I’ll dignify yours with a response:

People of colour are not your teaching tools. ESPECIALLY not adopted orphans of colour.

It is NOT my intention much less my “job” to educate whites and non-adoptees.

The tasks of unmaking and shedding light on oppression should NEVER be relegated to the oppressed people.

Using me as a source for your benefit and saying "sorry for all the assholes shitting on you,” yet failing to publicly call out the other white bio spawn doing aforementioned shitting is actually terribly rude of you. Your thanks is ultimately nothing but misguided entitlement.

I keep track of my real allies who use my content freely to become better informed themselves, then come collect their own when I make clear that white folks/bio spawn are attacking me.

And if you reduce these truths to an “angry" refusal to educate you, then you were never a trustworthy potential ally to begin with.

Aug 25 '14

lostintrafficlights:

this article is also quite good i think in deconstructing the bill? http://38north.org/2012/09/chong091912/

ironically there’s a comment from a guy who runs a similar organization in canada and a comment from someone from LiNK at the bottom of the article/briefing/report thing.

LiTL: Okay this report is very good so I’m just gonna replicate the important bits here

 Yet this bill recklessly turns on the fiction of the “North Korean refugee orphan,” construing the latter as a child without nationality, in order to authorize the acceleration of U.S. adoption procedures through “alternative mechanisms.” Although the bill purports to help “thousands of North Korean children [who] do not have families and are threatened with starvation and disease if they remain in North Korea or as stateless refugees in surrounding countries,”[ii]  its truth can be found in its preamble, which supposes that “thousands of United States citizens would welcome the opportunity to adopt North Korean orphans living outside North Korea.” Suturing its loose definitional categories together, this legislation seeks to establish, as a precedent, the category of “statelessness” as a flexible definitional vehicle by way of which inter-country adoption can be expedited and international laws meant to safeguard the rights of children and families circumvented. Aimed not at resolving North Korean hunger, much less the well-being of the children whom it willfully misrepresents, this bill lays the task of “identify[ing] other nations in which large numbers of stateless, orphaned children are living who might be helped by international adoption” at the doorstep of the State Department.

The bill’s alarmist image of “thousands of North Korean children [who] are threatened with starvation or disease” does not, in point of fact, correspond to the reality of the children who—albeit often poor and sometimes in the care of a grandparent—actually have families, have household registration papers, attend schools, are relatively well-nourished, and are Chinese citizens. Strategically loose on the supply-side details, this bill risks instrumentally construing these children as adoptable when, in fact, they are not. Far from ensuring the best interests of the child, as specified by international protocols, including the Hague Adoption Convention to which the United States is signatory, the North Korean Refugee Adoption Act, if passed, will give legitimacy to practices that shift U.S. adoption policy toward child-laundering.

Although the image of the destitute North Korean child wandering alone in strange lands may serve as potent propaganda for the bill, this dire portrait is complicated by the fact that the children whom this legislation primarily targets are Chinese citizens who have families.

Neither, for that matter, does the current legislation acknowledge that the “North Korean orphan”—anachronistic language retained from the 2003 bill—designates the China-born, mixed-ethnic offspring of Chinese fathers and North Korean mothers. If the details of the North Korean Refugee Adoption Act of 2011 are fuzzy on the supply side, they are clear on the demand side.

Okay just

this bill sounds very exploitative to me and wow this is fucking horrible

Aug 10 '14

hawaiianpassion:

I said something stupid an my friend’s response was
“Go back to the orphanage”

…That hurts…

jfc.

bio spawn spew ridiculousness all the same time, but this is the sort of shit that a true friend (or hell, even just a friendly acquaintance) would never even CONSIDER saying to somebody who’s orphaned.

i’m so sorry that happened. damn.

and because adoptees’ wholly valid responses get constantly invalidated in this world, I must say— just in case you felt like removing this “friend” from your social circle, you’d be more than justified.

<3 X

Aug 10 '14

OK, time to go capslock!orphan…

DEAR BIO SPAWN,

STOP BEING DERAILING GASSLIGHTING FUCKWITS TO TRANSRACIAL ADOPTEES.

THE FACT THAT SOME OF YOU IGNORANT ASS SPAWN ARE FELLOW POC MAKES IT WORSE. THIS SHIT’S EXPECTED FROM WHITE PPL, BUT WHEN IT COMES FROM YOU IT’S NOTHING LESS THAN A BETRAYAL. (as if we weren’t excluded from poc communities enough already)

I HOPE YOUS REALIZE THAT THE SAME WHITE SAVIOR INDUSTRIAL COMPLEX THAT DICTATES ALL ADOPTEES MUST ALWAYS BE GRATEFUL FOR AN INCREASINGLY ANTI-BLACK, ABUSIVE, ABLEIST SYSTEM OF CHILD TRAFFICKING (yes truly) IS THE SAME COMPLEX THAT DECREES ALL POC PARENTS AS INFERIOR TO WHITES, ALL POOR PARENTS AS INFERIOR TO THE RICH, THAT BLACK AND INDIGENOUS COMMUNITIES DESERVE TO BE DECIMATED.

OH YOU MEAN YOU DIDN’T KNOW THAT WHITE PEOPLE CAN ADOPT AS MANY CHILDREN OF COLOR AS THEY WANT AND THEN ABANDON THEM WITH NO LEGAL CONSEQUENCES BUT POC WERE LITERALLY BANNED FROM ADOPTING WHITES (to the point where there’s still public outcry when black parents try to adopt white children)

OH AND IF YOU HAVE KIDS YOU BETTER PRAY YOU’RE NEVER CAUGHT IN POVERTY, NEVER UNJUSTLY ARRESTED, NEVER A SINGLE PARENT IN THE NON-WESTERN WORLD. BECAUSE IF YOU ARE, YOUR CHILDREN WILL AUTOMATICALLY BE BRANDED ORPHANS AND INSTRUCTED TO BE GRATEFUL WHEN THEY’RE TAKEN FROM YOU, WHILE YOU’LL BE BRANDED A WORTHLESS WHORE.

PUT DOWN THE WHITE SUPREMACY-UPHOLDING KOOL-AID, DO SOME READING, AND LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF FOR FUCKS SAKE.

YOURS IN ETERNAL INGRATITUDE,

X

Jul 17 '14
"Sometimes people with the worst past end up creating the best future."
Unknown

(Source: onlinecounsellingcollege)

Jul 11 '14
"While the purported purpose of the bill is to reduce the number of children in orphanages, the opposite will most certainly result. According to Kathryn Joyce in The Child Catchers intercountry adoptions actually increase the number of children living in institutions: “Children who were not unparented or homeless before end up becoming institutionalized as a direct result of orphanages setting up shop in poor areas.”

The adoption industry helps create these institutions, often funded in large part, by grateful adoptive parents. As we’ve seen in the Ethiopian case, practitioners may falsely claim children are orphans in order to line their pockets with American money.

Furthermore, increasing intercountry adoptions runs the risk that children will be placed in unsafe homes where they may be killed, abused, or dumped into another unsafe home, as the recent series of stories on “re-homing” has shown us. It also diverts money which could be used to help children remain within their families."

[Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: Encouraging intercountry adoptions with hard cash

this article starts with the line ‘when half the faculty at Harvard and Boston College Law Schools endorse a bill that encourages poor countries to take children from their mothers and send them to the United States for adoption, you’d think something was amiss’ and it’s probably a sign i read too many (or just enough) adoption blogs that my first thought was ‘i thought that was the whole point of international adoption’.

(via keelanrosa)

"Children who were not unparented or homeless before end up becoming institutionalized as a direct result of orphanages setting up shop in poor areas.”

Jun 26 '14
Jun 26 '14

liztrade:

stoneandbloodandwater:

iincantatem:

Dumbledore, notorious for giving second chances Dumbledore, let Sirius rot in Azkaban for twelve years. 

He must have known Sirius well due to his time in the Order, he must have known what James meant to Sirius. Dumbledore was a member of the freaking Wizengamot yet he didn’t fight the Ministry’s horrifying trial-optional policy. 

This is a man who took back Death Eater!Snape at his word, shielded him from prison, and employed him at a school for children. 

But he didn’t have a use for Sirius, so he didn’t care about him.

I got 99 problems with Dumbledore and his treatment of Sirius Black accounts for like 64 of them.  

To be honest, Albus Dumbledore is one of the most disturbing, terrifying characters I’ve ever found in a book, because he thought he was a good guy and so did everyone else and the books don’t really challenge it either (given that Harry forgives him for everything he did), but when you look between the lines he was profoundly, profoundly immoral and unethical.

A couple of months ago, I was talking about HP characters with a friend, and he said that Dumbledore was one of his least favorite characters of all time.

Naturally, this took me back a bit since he’s one of the heroes of the series, misguided as he was at times. Still, I was curious and asked my friend why he hated him. His answer still strikes a chord with me.

"There is never, ever a reason to leave a child in an abusive home. Never."

Jun 3 '14
andybeedesigns:

Are Prayer Requests for a Baby Christian?
I do see similarities between marriage and adoption. Both institutions involve joining those who are not relatives by birth, both become immediate family members and both entail legalities.
And…in order to “marry” an infant who is not your son or daughter by birth, there first has to be a “divorce.”
So, Christian who is praying for an infant to adopt…when you pray to move up on the adoption agency’s waiting list, praying for a baby to become available, do you understand that you are praying for a family to be separated, so you can be joined together?
That’s what it will take for you to get the baby.
When you ask your friends to join you in praying that a baby will more quickly become available for you, do you understand that you are praying for a traumatic event in the life of a mother and child, one that will affect both of their lives, forever?
Babies Are In Short Supply…
Relinquishments are not as prevalent today as they were in the baby scoop era. Available infants are rare and in Christian circles they are prayed in for desperate couples, and sometimes even fundraised in. With this reality in mind, when you pray that a mother somewhere will make the decision to surrender her baby so that you can have them, how would it be that much different from praying that a person would leave their spouse so you can marry them?
It’s just a fact that before a family is joined together through adoption, another family must be separated by relinquishment. If a plethora of adoptive parents have their way, they are separated permanently, never to see one another again.
The difficult truth for many to accept: for a child to be adopted, a tragedy is first required.
I stand amazed at the amount of people I personally encounter who just will not accept this glaring truth.
“But I’m not praying for a tragedy to happen…” they say. “I just want a baby, not a tragedy.”
Don’t you know where adopted babies come from? There is no adoption stork. Or a Santa Claus.
If more babies are going to be available to adopt, more have to be relinquished.  It’s just as simple as that. Supply and demand.
Source: http://adoptionvoicesmagazine.com/adoptee-view/dear-christian-who-is-praying-for-an-infant-to-adopt/#.UoltssRkNuC

Marriage in no way shape or form resembles the adoption of children. And the comparison is grossly inappropriate, even if one tries to draw parallels between the industrialized trafficking of adoptees to specific contexts where wives are treated as property.
That being said — you&#8217;re close to hitting the nail on the head on how the global oppression and structurally violent poverty responsible for tearing apart family preservation in POC and non-Western communities is not really thought of as undesirable by Western Christians as long it benefits them.

andybeedesigns:

Are Prayer Requests for a Baby Christian?

I do see similarities between marriage and adoption. Both institutions involve joining those who are not relatives by birth, both become immediate family members and both entail legalities.

And…in order to “marry” an infant who is not your son or daughter by birth, there first has to be a “divorce.”

So, Christian who is praying for an infant to adopt…when you pray to move up on the adoption agency’s waiting list, praying for a baby to become available, do you understand that you are praying for a family to be separated, so you can be joined together?

That’s what it will take for you to get the baby.

When you ask your friends to join you in praying that a baby will more quickly become available for you, do you understand that you are praying for a traumatic event in the life of a mother and child, one that will affect both of their lives, forever?

Babies Are In Short Supply…

Relinquishments are not as prevalent today as they were in the baby scoop era. Available infants are rare and in Christian circles they are prayed in for desperate couples, and sometimes even fundraised in. With this reality in mind, when you pray that a mother somewhere will make the decision to surrender her baby so that you can have them, how would it be that much different from praying that a person would leave their spouse so you can marry them?

It’s just a fact that before a family is joined together through adoption, another family must be separated by relinquishment. If a plethora of adoptive parents have their way, they are separated permanently, never to see one another again.

The difficult truth for many to accept: for a child to be adopted, a tragedy is first required.

I stand amazed at the amount of people I personally encounter who just will not accept this glaring truth.

“But I’m not praying for a tragedy to happen…” they say. “I just want a baby, not a tragedy.”

Don’t you know where adopted babies come from? There is no adoption stork. Or a Santa Claus.

If more babies are going to be available to adopt, more have to be relinquished.  It’s just as simple as that. Supply and demand.

Source: http://adoptionvoicesmagazine.com/adoptee-view/dear-christian-who-is-praying-for-an-infant-to-adopt/#.UoltssRkNuC

Marriage in no way shape or form resembles the adoption of children. And the comparison is grossly inappropriate, even if one tries to draw parallels between the industrialized trafficking of adoptees to specific contexts where wives are treated as property.

That being said — you’re close to hitting the nail on the head on how the global oppression and structurally violent poverty responsible for tearing apart family preservation in POC and non-Western communities is not really thought of as undesirable by Western Christians as long it benefits them.