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maybe it was the 80s or maybe it was just clueless adoptive parents or both, but i always feel bad when a krn adoptee gets named ‘kim.’
ew. omfg, I have also met white people who adopted girls from China and renamed them ‘Jade’
Hughes DM, Chon KY, Ellerman DP., Modern-day comfort women: the U.S. Military, transnational crime, and the trafficking of women (pdf)
Never in a million years would the U.S. tolerate this kind of abuse from a foreign power in a major city like New York, Miami or Los Angeles. Never. But that’s what they expect from the citizens of places like Seoul and Daegu.
more reasons to hate white men. They’d never pull this kind of shit in the states because they know they’ll get away with bullshit like this in east asia and believe asian women are submissive enough not to say anything.
via jane jeong trenka’s FB:
People, please stop making assumptions about how things are done or have been done in Korea. It is Korea — not the U.S., not a European country, not Australia — it is KOREA. Please ask for information, read it with an open mind, and then make your judgments.
It is assumed that Korean women make “adoption plans” for their children when in fact many children have been kidnapped by relatives and taken to adoption agencies, and women have been outright lied to about what adoption IS (they think it’s a study abroad program). We in Korea do not have adequate shelters for low-income homeless women and children. We do not have SNAP or WIC. There is still no enforcement of child support obligations for fathers, whether unmarried or divorced. Until very recently high school students were expelled from school for being pregnant. Until recently only a man could be the head of a household. Many children never legally existed in Korea until their adoptions because of this. This is how you can traffic children. This is why we study the situation and do not assume that everywhere is just like the U.S. Korean women do not “make an adoption plan.” They are coerced and forced into sending their children for adoption. Wait a minute, Korea is a lot like the U.S., Canada, the UK and Australia during the Baby Scoop era — FORTY TO SEVENTY YEARS AGO — and those mothers from that era who tragically and needlessly lost their children deserve to be listened to and embraced for the sake of everyone’s future. Marilyn Harper, from your attitude it seems like you might not like to hear this, because it kind of makes you complicit. However, if you dare to incorporate some knowledge into your thinking, perhaps you can be on the team for change instead of the continued oppression of vulnerable women in Korea and other countries. We need systemic change, not systemic oppression. That is what the American women decided, anyway. Why should women in other countries deserve any less? Why should American women be complicit in the continuation of their oppression? Just as in the U.S. there might be a few truly crazy moms every year, but when you see tons and tons of children up for adoption or being abandoned, it points to something that is systemically oppressive and violent to women, not just some random crazy ladies who don’t want their children.
As for calling people “adopterators” I can see why you would want to do that if a crime has been done to you by a specific group of people. Some adoptees who feel that a crime has been done to them by their first parents call them “birth person” or “sperm donor” or worse. I can see why they would feel that way. Critically thinking adoptees are often called “angry” and “bitter” and infantalized and generally insulted and dismissed. If one views the adult adoptee as tearing down the thing that makes them happy and construing that adopting a child was an unintentional act of oppression against their child’s own family of origin, and yet they believe themselves to be saviors, I can see why they would want us to swallow the grateful pill again and shut up. (Good luck with that.)
I feel like we should talk about issues and facts and welcome those who are like-minded, no matter what their identity is. I am more interested in belief than identity. Although one’s identity does have a tendency to sway people’s beliefs in a certain way.
Marilyn said: “Why should anybody expect to be supported because they get pregant, single or otherwise?”
You should expect to be supported because babies, who are innocent and helpless, deserve to be supported and the best way to do that is to support the child in their own family, in their own environment, in their own country. It is not a crime to be born into poverty and children should not be exiled either from their countries or their families simply for being born into a family that is without resources. If you do not want to live in a world where the logic of capitalism rules everything right down to the most fundamental and precious human relationship, you have to think a little bit in terms of the good of the whole of society, not “I am OK and fuck all the rest of ya’ll.” As Deb Bee said, babies come from mothers, not orphanages. The reason why we KADs do not open our own orphanage here in Korea is because we support mothers raising their children and would rather do volunteer work all day and all night to increase support for them to raise their children by changing law, policy, and practice, and meanwhile attacking the discrimination and ignorance of the general public (rather than doing the easy thing, which is opening a baby magnet and getting the $1,000 per month per child that we would earn running an orphanage or group foster home). Marilyn Harper, you have asked to be educated. You’re welcome.
Marilyn Harper and anyone else who would like to read what Korea is doing differently from the United States, please read this report.
If you are an adoptive parent with a child from Korea, I view it as your personal responsibility to know about the country that your child came from. I do not care if you like kimchi or not. I do care whether you know the socio-political context behind the society that created such a giant intercountry adoption program.
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