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BRAND X

Orphaned transracial international ungrateful insurgent Class Bastard.

Posts tagged eating the other

Mar 29 '13

What does cultural competence look like? (Answer: Super problematic)

espritfollet:

Green (1982) defines cultural competency as “the ability to conduct professional work in a way that is consistent with the expectations which members of distinctive culture regard as appropriate among themselves.”

Resistance maintains “that teaching cultural competence through the use of fact-learning about specific populations is deeply flawed and limits thinking.” 

I don’t believe that “exposure” necessarily creates competence. Short answer, I know lots and lots of white people who regularly show up in my cultural groups who are shockingly, horrifyingly non-culturally-competent and racist.” 

-RESISTANCE 

“The problem with having an almost religious faith in ‘exposure’ is that too often, people want to treat cultural exposure as if it were a magical panacea that will overcome all cultural ignorance, obstacles, awkwardness and will above all, ‘transcend’ outsider status; almost as if, once you read a little (or a lot), travel and talk to a few native or locals you’re “set” and you will thereafter move from culture to culture with complete grace, fluidity and ease just like a local or native, thus garnering you insider status. But that is just a childish fantasy (like the white kid who dreams of being embraced and adopted by Native American Indians, marrying the princess and leading ‘the tribe’ to victory)

Reality simply doesn’t work in this manner.

It takes a certain degree of humility to realise that no matter HOW much you study or ‘expose’ yourself to another culture, you are still an outsider who didn’t grow up in the culture. (But instead, people pick up a few bits and pieces of a culture then run with it as if it were the sum total.) There is always an important and NECESSARY distance between you and other groups and what true cross-cultural competence involves is having the awareness to realise, accept and *respect* distance while still attempting to communicate and forge bonds.

But many people – particularly white people – greatly struggle with this because of their overwhelming desire to control all interactions; they fear of having to admit to being ignorant, uncomfortable, alien or at a disadvantage because it clashes so violently with how their white identity is constructed. (i.e. all-knowing, at “home” in any place or clime, ‘innately’ native to everywhere, and perpetually privileged. So they become cultural fetishists or self-proclaimed experts to avoid having to surrender control.

Cross-cultural competency is not a set test that you can prep for then pass or fail.


My reading of the OP is: don’t overestimate the benefits of ‘exposure’ to other cultures or feel that it, in and of itself, ‘solves’ everything. If done in a respectful manner, it *can* at best, be helpful; but even then, you still have to be prepared to make missteps, be confident enough to admit to them, not repeat them then recover and continue. But that takes confidence, rather than pride as to how knowledgeable you are and how well-versed or ‘exposed’ you are to other cultures. Too many people who have had a little cultural exposure have such overweening pride that they can’t recover from a gaffe or a mistake.”

-NYKINORA 

(via What does cultural competence look like? | Resist racism)

The summary of my 2 cents? It’s not just a “skill” you learn, that you can check off. Oh, I learned some essentialist stuff about a culture, I’m not racist, I know how to deal with them!  

white people – greatly struggle with this because of their overwhelming desire to control all interactions; they fear of having to admit to being ignorant, uncomfortable, alien or at a disadvantage because it clashes so violently with how their white identity is constructed. (i.e. all-knowing, at “home” in any place or clime, ‘innately’ native to everywhere, and perpetually privileged. So they become cultural fetishists or self-proclaimed experts to avoid having to surrender control.

Boom city.

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Mar 26 '13

WOWOWOW

nuestrahermana:

This white woman on TV just said about her adopted daughter:

“I adopted her from Colombia. It was like ordering from a catalog I got exactly what I wanted. I used to call her Zoey Jean my little Colombian coffee bean.” 

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Mar 26 '13
Adoptive parents have the right to choose between age, country, race, handicap, et cetera. The fact that certain countries remain strong favorites for adoptive parents speaks volumes of how racialized thinking continues to live on under anti-racist surface narratives.

Korea, Ethiopia, and Colombia are countries whose children fit Eurocentric standards of beauty more than others in the same regions; compare children from Korea to children from Malaysia, children from Ethiopia to children from Kenya, and children from Colombia to children from Bolivia. Furthermore, [Western] adoptive parents display a clear preference for girls and ‘racially pure’ children.
— Tobias Hubinette, A Critique of International Adoption [translated from Swedish]

(Source: brandx)

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Mar 12 '13
shnestle:

I’m going to adopt a black child, serious.

BREAKING NEWS FOR STUPID BITCHES: cute lil transracial “orphans” eventually come into full grown adulthood that ultimately destroys your white savior fetishist fantasies!
White people, time to come collect your own.^

shnestle:

I’m going to adopt a black child, serious.

BREAKING NEWS FOR STUPID BITCHES: cute lil transracial “orphans” eventually come into full grown adulthood that ultimately destroys your white savior fetishist fantasies!

White people, time to come collect your own.^

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Mar 10 '13

The activists who use their friends with marginalized identities as super kewl trading cards.

taliaitscoldoutside:

jalwhite:

provocatoria:

Collecting obscurely brown friends that you can reference in your conversations with other people to make yourself seem worldly and cultured

is.

not.

okay.

Don’t ever refer to me as your samoan friend.
Don’t ever tell me about your hawaiian friend.
I don’t want to hear about your third cousin who married a half Tahitian lady.

Once you tell me about your cherokee friend, your trans* friend, your gay bestie, your collection of indigenous people that you use as a exotic patches on your radikewl vest….I’m out. Don’t use me as a reference. I’m not a footnote in your supposedly revolutionary life. You’re  not doing me a favor by counting me as your friend. People’s lives and histories are not for you to look well-travelled and in tune with marginalized folks’ experiences. It mostly makes you look like a dick that uses people.

cosign

Um yes can we make not doing this law?

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Mar 8 '13

lionxvx:

deafmuslimpunx:

goawaygora:

Big round of applause to the hippie subculture and white fitness groups which have stolen everything from clothing to religious practices to cultural dances all under the guise of “health and embracing the alternative”.

While the POC these practices originate from continue to be subject to racism and xenophobia, as yet another white person walks around carefree with their bindis, baja sweaters, and dreads, heading to their yoga twerk tribal fusion class in hopes of opening their chakras………

It makes me angry how yoga and Goddess Kali, Buddhist mantras and the bindi are now widely associated with “New Age” hippie white-women bullshit, and not associated with actual, alive, breathing Hindus, Buddhists, and many other South Asian groups.

*white people

*ruin everything

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Feb 20 '13
Seemingly unaware of my presence, these young men talked about their plans to fuck as many girls from other racial/ethnic groups as they could “catch” before graduation. They “ran” it down. Black girls were high on the list, Native American girls hard to find, Asian girls (all lumped into the same category), deemed easier to entice, were considered “prime targets.” Talking about this over-heard conversation with my students, I found that it was commonly accepted that one “shopped” for sexual partners in the same way one “shopped” for courses at Yale, and that race and ethnicity was a serious category on which selections were based. To these young males and their buddies, fucking was a way to confront the Other, as well as a way to make themselves over, to leave behind white “innocence” and enter the world of “experience.” As is often the case in this society, they were confident that non-white people had more life experience, were more worldly, sensual, and sexual because they were different. Getting a bit of the Other, in this case engaging in sexual encounters with non-white females, was considered a ritual of transcendence, a movement out into a world of difference that would transform, an acceptable rite of passage.

bell hooks, Eating the Other (via goleyaas)

sad motherfucking truths

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Feb 6 '13

fuckyeahwumbology:

thirstingaintdead:

Some white lady on Hoarders said her life basically collapsed when the Indian Government wouldn’t let her adopt a little Indian girl and I got to thinking…

Whenever I’d hear white people talk about adopting brown children, it always sounded like a fetish.

I was in an adoption group once (since I’m adopted) and in it were a couple kids who were adopted from India and one who was adopted from Nigeria. I swear, I have never wanted to punch someone’s parents more than theirs. They were so condescending and acted so superior because they “saved” their kids. One of them had the gall to ask my own mother why she hadn’t adopted me from a third world country.

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Jan 22 '13

Adopter Savior Syndrome

optihyunsooklee:

This is the best blog post I’ve read in a really long time.  It’s found here.  Go read the rest of her blog, too, cuz it’s all just as good and snarky.
What is Adopter Savior Syndrome (A.S.S.)?  A.S.S. is a highly contagious and devastating disease that is estimated to be found in millions of White adoptive parents and White adoptive prospective parents around the constructed Western world. Adopter Savior Syndrome is not yet fully understood, though it is speculated to be a White disease that is particularly pervasive among desperate wives and cisgender men with Yellow Fever. Current trends suggest that heteronormative queer families may experience a severe A.S.S. outbreak unless these communities check themselves against such racist and classist interpretations of human rights. Ask your adult Adoptee about A.S.S. if you experience the urgent and persistent need to adopt in order to become a complete person. If you are a White adoptive parent who has engaged in the transnational adoption process in order to adopt an ethnic baby, you may suffer from a severe case of A.S.S.Symptoms of Adopter Savior Syndrome include:
  • White Jesus told you to adopt. 
  • You believe you saved an orphan. 
  • You feel paranoid about reverse racism.  
  • You have served as an expert on Adoptee issues. 
  • You experience shock when adult Adoptees notice race.  
  • You feel entitled to the Adoptee’s love, affection, and gratitude.
  • You feel confused when people of color accuse you of being racist.  
  • You have delusions of grandeur that you are the best parents for the Adoptee.
  • You hallucinate consent when touching your adopted child in vulnerable moments. 
  • You feel threatened when the Adoptee asks questions about their family and culture of origin.
  • You are married.
  • You are colorblind.   
  • You believe in White Jesus.
  • You believe that people are people.*
  • You fantasize about intimate relationships with people of color.   
  • You are desperate for love because of daddy issues and mean girls.
  • Critical thinking scares you because you were taught to be positive.  
  • You seek to own that which you desire, including children that already have families. 
  • You envy communities of color and poor communities for their authentic and exotic culture. 
  • You love ethnic food, hip hop music, and oriental decorations BUT people of color scare you.  
 *People are defined as White, able, hetero, gender-conforming, and middle to upper-class. If left untreated in White adoptive parents, Adopter Savior Syndrome may lead to the perpetration of abuse and neglect against the adopted person of color, in addition to collusion with a system of global White supremacy that is destroying us all.Too many children and adult Adoptees are victims of White adoptive parents suffering with Adopter Savior Syndrome. If you are struggling with an irritating and relentless case of A.S.S., please contact your local adult Adoptee organization

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Jan 15 '13
Slum tourism turns poverty into entertainment, something that can be momentarily experienced and then escaped from…. People think they’ve really ‘seen’ something — and then go back to their lives and leave me, my family and my community right where we were before.

Kennedy Odede of Kenya in Poverty tours: A learning experience or simply gawking? (via zeram)

“Kennedy Odede, the executive director of Shining Hope for Communities, a social services organization in Kenya, decried poverty tours of Nairobi’s largest slum, Kibera. He wrote in The New York Times that the tours do nothing to alleviate the problem.”

How much would yall like to bet that the white folks who go on these tours are even LESS likely to check their privilege afterwards and MORE likely to scream at PoC when we call them out on their various Fail cos they spent “2 whole hours holding hands with a brown slum child!”

(Source: beholdtheboricua)

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