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Our personal adoption stories have nothing to do with it. It is the system. The system of adoption is inherently classist, racist, and misogynistic.
It is heartbreaking that families are torn apart because society hates women, hates children, hates poor people, etc. It is heartbreaking no matter the circumstances when a child is taken away from their mother (and father/other family), even if it truly is necessary - which it generally isn’t. Losing one’s mother/family is a tragedy. Especially when talking about infants who are so completely and utterly attuned to their mothers and cannot rationally process the loss. It’s so sad.
Then, on top of that of that loss, adoptees have their names and original identities stripped from them, and those original identities are sealed. The loss is further compounded by the fact that society doesn’t see that there is any loss. You must be grateful and happy to be adopted, and if you aren’t, you’re a bad, ungrateful adoptee. As the Revered Keith C Griffith put it, “Adoption loss is the only trauma in the world where the victims are expected by the whole of society to be grateful.”
If you have had a good adoption experience, that’s good for you. I mean that sincerely. But “good” adoption stories don’t erase the severe problems within the system of adoption. Writing about the problems in adoption would take a long time, and I am very not good at the education side of it.
So if you’re interested:
Brand-X is an international transracial Class Bastard who is pretty good at that stuff, especially with connecting it to other issues that I know you’re interested in (feminism, anti-racism, human rights, etc).
I can’t think of anyone else I liked when I was de-fogging, other than books. If I think of someone, I’ll put them in the master post I’m creating. Not sure how long it will take - adoption is a very difficult topic for me.
Editing to add one of my other favourites: Adoption Sometimes Gets All Fucked Up, 101 by Fugitivus
shout out to people who are scared to call others out, whose hands shake when they try to explain what’s wrong, whose throats threaten to close up with thoughts of ‘what if i’m just overreacting’, whose hearts are pounding out of their chests because they just stuck their necks out for their beliefs, who have lost friends and respect and safety for aligning themselves with causes
a couple things…
Mako Mori is played by Rinko Kikuchi.
Rinko Kikuchi is 169cm (that’s over 5’6” to you funny folk stuck on the imperial system).
Which actually makes her TALLER than the average American woman. Hell, she’s probably taller than the average tumblr user given this age demographic.
So unless you also honestly conceive of everyday average Americans as super small, please stop referring to Mako Mori as “tiny,” “doll-like,” “child-sized,” or some equally nauseating, factually inaccurate descriptor.
Charlie Day’s Newton Geiszler is actually shorter than her. He’s also far less capable of defending himself. Pentecost, Raleigh, Hannibal Chau all tower over his puny ass.
AND YET: no one’s constantly referring to him as some itty bitty child/doll gee I wonder.
Stacker Pentecost: awe-inspiring, sure. Respected, definitely. But scary?
Raleigh greets the Marshal on how dapper he looks, then spends their subsequent scenes trailing after him like an over-enthusiastic golden retriever.
Mako repeatedly asserts her mission to avenge her family despite his reservations.
Herc comforts him on a first-name basis. Chuck pitches a tantrum in his own office. Newt and Gottlieb squabble at the top of their lungs and throw shit at each other in his presence.
Most of them disobey his orders. None of them hesitate to interrupt him. On what planet does this behavior signify fear to anybody? Did we see the same film?
I get it, we’ve been bombarded with one-dimensional portrayals of black men as scary. Black men with unrivaled expertise & dignity in positions of authority? “Terrifying,” to quote verbatim from countless fanworks.
If you’re writing some fluffy high school date AU and need to cast someone as the requisite shotgun-wielding dad, then ok whatev.
But if you think Stacker Pentecost’s terrifying, that’s your ish, because NONE of the characters do.
IDK, it would just be nice if we could enjoy these characters and their fandoms without mindlessly allowing the usual boring old bullshit preconceptions to intrude on the fun and creativity?
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