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“These children need a different kind of love — the type that forces them to love others[…] it is the therapist’s job to disturb the disturbed.”
— Foster Cline, Conscienceless Acts
“In the beginning, your child should learn to ask for everything. They must ask to go to the bathroom, to…
Our whole adoption complex is so fucked. Why is it so hard to grasp the concept of only adopting a kid so you can love/support them and let them grow into their own person? If I had been adopted rather than raised by my biological parents, I would have been diagnosed with some bullshit attachment disorder (because it just wasn’t my style to attach to anyone as a kid) and probably killed or at the very least traumatized by some bullshit corrective therapy.
If you were adopted rather than bio spawned, you’d be diagnosed with attachment disorder REGARDLESS of your real behavior and/or “style.”
All adoptees are stigmatized from the get go. This is why even East Asian adoptees (widely branded as the most docile variety) are automatically likened to Lord Voldemort.
Attachment Disorder’s “symptoms” are purposefully catch-all inclusive. Are you quiet and withdrawn? Then you’re “empty-eyed” and “not affectionate on parent’s terms.” Are you affectionate and playful? Then you’re “superficially engaging and charming” and just waiting for an opportunity to poison your family’s water supply with strychnine or some shit.
I can’t even begin to go into detail on what happens when disability enters the picture, or when we come from different cultures than the oppressive one we’re adopted into.
Attachment theory worships eye contact as a bonding benchmark, utterly failing to realize that many of the non-Eurocentric (and far less violent) cultures that comprise the adoption industry’s “supply regions” traditionally teach children to avoid directly looking at adults as a SIGN OF RESPECT.
I’ve worked on a lawsuit with another adoptee who is congenitally blind. She was diagnosed as dangerously attachment disordered by one of the leading adoption experts in all of Europe for failing to memorize Braille characters that she had not yet been taught.
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so much claptrap festering in my inbox by shit for brains white bio spawn who hand to god claim that having light skin/white privilege is totes comparable to the transracial adoptees experience
gotta address this and some lethally ableist shit in the international transracial Class Bastard domain being propagated by neurotypical, light-skinned adoptees especially
cutting down my dash to focus on fellow adoptees & foster care survivors to accomplish aforementioned. will refollow later. X
posting bc FU to white savior bio spawn continually greasing up my inbox with tears of mayo “well if the current system of outright kidnapping child trafficking war-mongering womb-farming woman-raping literally genocidal fuckery that comprises the adoption industry than WHAT IS tell meeee how can i adopt”
Not my job to take time out from my invaluable resistance and survival to educate your oppressive, clueless asses
much less help procure for you an ACTUAL HUMAN BEING.
i don’t have the reaction gifs for this one srsly i want to VOM.
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Welcome to the world, please stop living under a rock and you might notice us more.
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More on this later, just had to get this off my chest because adoption’s become something of a ‘hot’ issue on tumblr and bio spawn are fucking up left and right trying to interject, spewing horrendously fucked up propaganda while ignoring adoptees and the glaring truths we’ve spoken out about time and time again.
People of Color: this includes yous. Yall are by no means guiltless of this fuckery, and the complacent belief that you don’t really have anything to learn by virtue of also lacking white privilege is completely wrong. I’ve witnessed far too many examples of this shit, but the two that spring to mind are
1) espousing domestic adoption over international when Class Bastards have posted 375289338+ articles about the ethnocidal decimation of Black and Native communities in North America especially and systemic abduction/trafficking of young single women’s children
2) propagating “Reactive Attachment Disorder” ableist pseudoscience (which btw tortures thousands of adoptees/foster kids and frequently ends in murder, Cassandra Killpack being just one of the fellow victims I could bring myself to post about) as your citations and educational sources as opposed to content by actual adoptees and foster care survivors.
STFU plz & thank you. X
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