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BRAND X

Orphaned transracial international ungrateful insurgent Class Bastard.

Posts tagged bio spawn

Sep 29 '14

What if….

zomboid-vandal:

aerialklove:

As an adoptee I get a lot of what if questions. What if you wasn’t adopted? What if you were adopted by a White family? What if you and your twin brother was split up? I don’t really like these types of questions. Do you all like answering these types of questions?

nope. it’s annoying and the people never ask because they actually give a shit - they just want to satisfy their own curiosity. 

Co-signed.

I’d actually be willing to discuss such things with fellow adoptees, but adoptees don’t ask these questions because we know just how invasive and inappropriate they are.

Sep 21 '14

starlettohara:

brandx:

this-isnt-your-captain-speaking:

arbolitadelbosque:

Why I sideeye white people adopting children of different races

thisisnotafrica:

queerhairyvag:

catieissomethingcreative said: I kinda think that if you’re white and going to adopt a non-white child, you shouldn’t be a dick about it. That’s really it. Don’t congratulate yourself, don’t brag about it, just be a fucking parent.

^^^THIS^^^

Transracial adoption can seriously fuck you up and your white parents are all like, “but, but BUT I gave you everything! I’ve ALWAYS supported you!!!”

"But I can’t be racist - I have brown kids!"

But you’re told stories about family members concerned about “how brown is you’re going to be” and hear conversations about how “interracial marriages just don’t mix” and while at 9 you know, know, KNOW that you are expected to marry white. And you hear about how the Mexicans should go back to where they came from and as a Colombian you’re sitting in the back with Mexican, Peruvian and Guatemalan sibs wondering how that does not include all of you.

Then comes the day that you realize that the only reason you are worthy is because they changed everything about you and stamped you with their white last name. And that last name is a fucking weight to bear because you are expected to live up to their expectations, live up to the whiteness and deny, deny, deny everything else.

Until one day you don’t.

But even then - you still feel like a fraud, an interloper, an appropriator of a culture that should have been yours but was not. And continually having to work to dismantle the white supremacist thinking that you were brought up with - not just about all those other POCs out there but also about yourself.

Bolding that shit for emphasis.

Mundane bio spawn simply can’t cope with our complexity.

It’s either “shut up you’re WHITE on the inside you’re WESTERN you don’t know and can’t claim ANY of your birth hertiage”

or

"shut up you’re NOT WHITE you’re a FOREIGNER you don’t REALLY belong here and you can’t claim any of your adoptive heritage what about your ‘REAL’ family"

"you’re not actually colombian, you’re american” - literally everyone over the age of 40 (older generations seem to have particular trouble grasping the concept of my ethno-racial identity) 

"but you’re basically white" - my well-meaning (adoptive) mom trying to make me feel better about my identity issues

"your parents did a very brave thing in bringing you to this country. they saved your life. how does that make you feel?" - literally any time i went to a new elementary school when I was younger, ignorant as fuck people would tell me this and ask me invasive questions like that. Like who the fuck tells an 8 year old "if it wasn’t for your parents you would probably be begging on a street in Colombia somewhere"???

"no eres colombiana, eres gringa!" - p much every colombian native i met at smith, or on my study abroad program in costa rica. i didn’t stick around actual colombia long enough to see how i would be read there. 

"it would be weird to introduce you to my parents bc they think all hispanics are illegals lol" - UMASS bro I hooked up with for a hot second

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Aug 27 '14

Dear white Western liberals

Saying adoptees who critique the adoption industry (yes, industry) are just “angry with your adoptive families” is like saying girls who critique patriarchy are just “mad at your fathers.”

[is your ass jealous of the shit that comes out of your head.gif]

Aug 10 '14

hawaiianpassion:

I said something stupid an my friend’s response was
“Go back to the orphanage”

…That hurts…

jfc.

bio spawn spew ridiculousness all the same time, but this is the sort of shit that a true friend (or hell, even just a friendly acquaintance) would never even CONSIDER saying to somebody who’s orphaned.

i’m so sorry that happened. damn.

and because adoptees’ wholly valid responses get constantly invalidated in this world, I must say— just in case you felt like removing this “friend” from your social circle, you’d be more than justified.

<3 X

Aug 10 '14

(Source: elena-chan)

Aug 10 '14

OK, time to go capslock!orphan…

DEAR BIO SPAWN,

STOP BEING DERAILING GASSLIGHTING FUCKWITS TO TRANSRACIAL ADOPTEES.

THE FACT THAT SOME OF YOU IGNORANT ASS SPAWN ARE FELLOW POC MAKES IT WORSE. THIS SHIT’S EXPECTED FROM WHITE PPL, BUT WHEN IT COMES FROM YOU IT’S NOTHING LESS THAN A BETRAYAL. (as if we weren’t excluded from poc communities enough already)

I HOPE YOUS REALIZE THAT THE SAME WHITE SAVIOR INDUSTRIAL COMPLEX THAT DICTATES ALL ADOPTEES MUST ALWAYS BE GRATEFUL FOR AN INCREASINGLY ANTI-BLACK, ABUSIVE, ABLEIST SYSTEM OF CHILD TRAFFICKING (yes truly) IS THE SAME COMPLEX THAT DECREES ALL POC PARENTS AS INFERIOR TO WHITES, ALL POOR PARENTS AS INFERIOR TO THE RICH, THAT BLACK AND INDIGENOUS COMMUNITIES DESERVE TO BE DECIMATED.

OH YOU MEAN YOU DIDN’T KNOW THAT WHITE PEOPLE CAN ADOPT AS MANY CHILDREN OF COLOR AS THEY WANT AND THEN ABANDON THEM WITH NO LEGAL CONSEQUENCES BUT POC WERE LITERALLY BANNED FROM ADOPTING WHITES (to the point where there’s still public outcry when black parents try to adopt white children)

OH AND IF YOU HAVE KIDS YOU BETTER PRAY YOU’RE NEVER CAUGHT IN POVERTY, NEVER UNJUSTLY ARRESTED, NEVER A SINGLE PARENT IN THE NON-WESTERN WORLD. BECAUSE IF YOU ARE, YOUR CHILDREN WILL AUTOMATICALLY BE BRANDED ORPHANS AND INSTRUCTED TO BE GRATEFUL WHEN THEY’RE TAKEN FROM YOU, WHILE YOU’LL BE BRANDED A WORTHLESS WHORE.

PUT DOWN THE WHITE SUPREMACY-UPHOLDING KOOL-AID, DO SOME READING, AND LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF FOR FUCKS SAKE.

YOURS IN ETERNAL INGRATITUDE,

X

Jul 17 '14
  • Person: So do you know your mom?
  • Me: ...Well she raised me, so...yes I'd say I know her fairly well actually.
  • Person: No, I mean your REAL mom.
  • Me: *resists urge to punch face* As opposed to my...plastic mom?
  • Person: No come on you know what I mean! Like your RREEEAAALLLL mom like the woman who had you.
  • Me: Oh, you mean my birthmother.
Jul 13 '14

lavenderpenny asked:

hey again! i hope you're well :-) so yes i've been reading through your reactive attachment disorder tag, i see RAD be attributed to a lot of murdered orphans by their adopted parents and from what i can see it seems to be a readily used excuse for abusive parents defending their actions? It's kind of confusing to me about whether it's a legitimate issue that gets misused by adoptive parents or a fabricated condition used against children who don't do exactly what their adoptive parents (...)
(…) expect them to. i’d like to know more about it if you have any resources or wouldn’t mind explaining it yourself? i hope my question makes sense!
Reactive Attachment Disorder (AKA Attachment Disorder) IS actually a legitimate condition.
But it’s ONLY applicable to children about 3 and under, entails completely nonviolent, natural responses, and is arguably not even a disorder (but Westerners gotta pathologize everything that isn’t 100% nuclear fam heteronormative, so). It means that if a child goes through a lot of displacement (orphanages, foster care etc.), they get confused as to who their primary caregivers are, so sometimes they attach to complete strangers instead of their parental guardians.
But the pseudoscientific “attachment disorder” that adoptees & foster kids get branded with is commonly referred to as “serial killer syndrome.” Western adoption “experts” compare us to Adolf Hitler and Ted Bundy, which (given that the majority of adoptees worldwide are not white, Aryan, or male) can get grating, yes? Then there’s the fact that the “treatments” for RAD/AD are actual child abuse & torture.
I’ve gotten a bunch of new followers over recent flurry from some of my posts that got hijacked by Well-Intentioned Western(tm) spawn on RAD. And to them, I must say:
If you really are so irredeemably shitbrained to believe in that latter definition of attachment disorder, unfollow me right the fuck now. Seriously, that level of gullibility poses a danger. X
Jul 9 '14

I’ll start with my adoption microaggressions!

unsungvoicesexperience:

I hate when people say “your parents are so great for having adopted you. I could never adopt. I wouldn’t love it as much as a kid that was, you know, my own.” 

If you’re so narcissistic that you honestly think you wouldn’t love an adopted child as much as one that’s your biological issue, DON’T FUCKING HAVE KIDS AT ALL

-mod R

Jul 7 '14

supraliminally:

brandx:

blackorphanreviews:

bastardplanet:

spacebunnysparkle-empress:

im going to adopt overseas just to spite these teenage shits lolz

This white American and would-be adoptive parent calls Black and POC adoptees “MONKEYS” and repeatedly issues ableist, infantilising attacks against international and transracial adoptees (many of whom are from non-English-speaking countries) based on their deviations from spacebunnysparkle-empress’s standards of English language.

white settlers smh.

White people and would-be adoptive parents, come collect your own^ I can’t even with this mess it’s horrificimage

it’s literally the “i came out to have a good time and i’m honestly feeling so attacked right now” meme as an actual living human being and not an internet joke

with the added bonus of calling POC ‘monkeys,’ pretending that she is a nice person via the condescending passive-aggressive ‘gosh you are SO ANGRY i just want to give you a hug i hope your life gets better :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)’ shit plus she is the one who fucking started shit in the first place by going to someone who was a little bit pissed off about the MURDER OF A FUCKING CHILD, LITERALLY THE MURDER OF A CHILD and pulling the stupid tone-policing ‘wow you seem really angry have you considered my feelings????????’ horseshit

in short, literally scum that cannot be communicated with in any meaningful way

in more important news, to people who are capable of being communicated with in a meaningful way, educate yourselves about adoption. brandx’s tumblr is a good place to start. peaceshannon is also a really great resource, and so is bastardplanet. i won’t even tell you how to feel about it or what to think, because i think adoptees speak for themselves well enough. just read about it and think about it. read and then think about: who makes money off international adoption, what options are available other than shipping kids overseas, what issues cause people to give up children for adoption in the first place, what effect having to give up a child has on disenfranchised women, what effect it has on the children given up, what kind of culture exists among so-called ‘orphan addicts’ and what attitude they have towards the children they purport to love, whether or not it’s really true that there are more ‘orphans’ than there are people looking to adopt, whether or not adopting a child is really a public service in a world with millions of kids with no one willing to take them (here’s a hint: this is a myth) — anyway, i could go on. i genuinely think that if rational people look at the facts about international adoption with an open mind, they’ll probably be shocked by a lot of what they find, and at the very least they’ll rethink the wisdom of adopting internationally.

Reblogging for supraliminally’s grade A analogy.

Also— holy shite, it’s seriously been something over 2 weeks now and OP is STILL going around attacking adoptees. How do such trolls live? I don’t even have enough time for people I like. X