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This is why it is so crucial to distinguish between transracial adoption and transethnic adoption.
Transethnic adoptees experience the profound loss of heritage and erasure of identity, but they also benefit from white privilege in ways that transracial adoptees never can.
Because there’s no male figure in the home is deeply misogynist and sexist
Not trying to be “that guy”, but there are male single parent homes too.
And those typically aren’t the ones with stigma attached to them. Are…
Ok but that wasn’t the point if the post. And I don’t think two parents of opposite genders make a difference. Children need a community of loving adults. Nuclear families are far to small to really nurture individuals in my opinion since we’re deviating away from the point of the post.
"All single parent homes get a lot o stigma" sure thing @antarcticanking but there’s no worldwide industry and network specifically targeting and trafficking from single FATHERS. There aren’t major “public health” campaigns that slut shame single fathers. When white supremacist “scientists” pathologized single parents & offspring as “mentally unfit” and a literal danger to humanity, guess which half of the gender binary they went in on.
Oh, I KNOW all single parents gets stigmatized. Us Developing World(tm) bastards get classified as orphans just by living in a single parent household, even if both our parents and entire family are still alive. Which (to build on howtobeterrell’s point) is especially convenient if one wants to wipe out our birth cultures that have a much healthier and community-oriented approach to raising children than the dumbshit Western über-heteronormative capitalist nuclear family model. Tobias Hübinette wrote a great piece on how this model purposefully colonizes and destroys non-Western communities.
But this "ALL single parented homes are stigmatized" is just derailing. The assault on single motherhood (especially black and brown motherhood) is unprecedented.
I just got in contact with my biological half brother. I never thought this day would come, I never even thought about it at all. Can’t really breathe. Not sure how to process this. And I’m at work so I can’t cry my feelings out. Holy. Fuck.
Congrats!!!! I’m still working on contacting my half-brother. Still not sure if he knows I even exist. <3 <3 <3 Hang in there! Its an emotional rollercoaster! I hope you guys can start a great relationship!
Congrats! I just found out I have a half-sister, and I’m trying to figure out how to tell my (bio) brothers. They’re both younger than me and not in the same head space with regards to our past. Which is fine, I was there once too. It’s so great to see other adoptees making these connections! Reminds me to hold on to hope. xoxoxo
THIS IS AMAZING, huge congratulations to all you glorious bastards <3
Wishing yall the wellness in the world. I know how freaking immense & indescribable it is going from being a lone orphan all your life to suddenly discovering you have a sibling (or two, or three…) — I discovered the existence of mine months ago, and I’m still working out how to go about contacting them.
Lots of love — let’s keep each other posted. X
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