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From the article:
A pregnant woman has had her baby forcibly removed by caesarean section by social workers.
Essex social services obtained a High Court order against the woman that allowed her to be forcibly sedated and her child to be taken from her womb.
The council said it was acting in the best interests of the woman, an Italian who was in Britain on a work trip, because she had suffered a mental breakdown.
The baby girl, now 15 months old, is still in the care of social services, who are refusing to give her back to the mother, even though she claims to have made a full recovery.
And we thought eugenics were a thing of the past? It hardly ever makes news in Europe but refugee and migrant women are disproportionately affected by similar Social Services involvement regularly. I have spoken with many Women of Color (who will not speak on record for fear of retaliation) who have mentioned similar vigilantism going on in The Netherlands. It usually starts with Dutch neighbors “notifying” Social Services that there is an “unfit” mother (cultural differences can be perceived as signs of “bad motherhood” over here) and it escalates to full blown investigations that go as far as monitoring what children are fed (“ethnic” foods being subjected to special scrutiny under the guise of “nutrition value”). The women I’ve spoken to have mentioned situations like this with family members, friends, acquaintances, etc. It’s one of the reasons communities are kept tight, as usually positive outcomes depend on strong collective reactions to the injustice.
The case involving the Italian woman in the article is extremely unfortunate but I very strongly suspect it’s not as isolated as the news make it appear. The only difference is that when it happens to Women of Color it remains unreported because of victim’s fear and the normalization of violence.
LOL, only white bio spawn are gullible enough to frame eugenics as a thing of the past.
This particularly ableist incarnation of the white savior industrial complex forcibly taking “orphans” from our birth mothers is exactly what class bastards and adoptees have been saying for decades (of course the masses don’t listen to us as they’re busy demanding why we aren’t “grateful”…)
Who actually goes into this system as a small child? Who has to survive growing up in this system while enduring incessant accusations that our birth mothers were mentally unfit&/whores? Who gets warehoused into foster care at historically unprecedented rates? Who gets kidnapped by the police when they arrest our mothers for the “crime” of being poor? Who gets put in white Christian households if we meet some bullshit Eurocentric standards of physical appearance? No fucking shit isn’t an isolated incident.
You don’t need a sea change in news media to gain an accurate perspective on this epidemic — all you need is to stop the silencing of those who survive it.
Our personal adoption stories have nothing to do with it. It is the system. The system of adoption is inherently classist, racist, and misogynistic.
It is heartbreaking that families are torn apart because society hates women, hates children, hates poor people, etc. It is heartbreaking no matter the circumstances when a child is taken away from their mother (and father/other family), even if it truly is necessary - which it generally isn’t. Losing one’s mother/family is a tragedy. Especially when talking about infants who are so completely and utterly attuned to their mothers and cannot rationally process the loss. It’s so sad.
Then, on top of that of that loss, adoptees have their names and original identities stripped from them, and those original identities are sealed. The loss is further compounded by the fact that society doesn’t see that there is any loss. You must be grateful and happy to be adopted, and if you aren’t, you’re a bad, ungrateful adoptee. As the Revered Keith C Griffith put it, “Adoption loss is the only trauma in the world where the victims are expected by the whole of society to be grateful.”
If you have had a good adoption experience, that’s good for you. I mean that sincerely. But “good” adoption stories don’t erase the severe problems within the system of adoption. Writing about the problems in adoption would take a long time, and I am very not good at the education side of it.
So if you’re interested:
Brand-X is an international transracial Class Bastard who is pretty good at that stuff, especially with connecting it to other issues that I know you’re interested in (feminism, anti-racism, human rights, etc).
I can’t think of anyone else I liked when I was de-fogging, other than books. If I think of someone, I’ll put them in the master post I’m creating. Not sure how long it will take - adoption is a very difficult topic for me.
Editing to add one of my other favourites: Adoption Sometimes Gets All Fucked Up, 101 by Fugitivus
I just finished reading them, actually. If we had continued the conversation then you would have found out that nearly all of the experiences you've written about or reblogged have happened to me because of the circumstances of my birth and how I was raised. It's clear there's not much point in continuing, though. Have a good week and a nice holiday.
oh wowowowow so YOU TOO were picked out of a catalog between $30,000 - $50,000 bucks a pop with final price contingent on your physical attractiveness, number of diseases, and neurotypicality?!
YOU TOO had your gender determined by industry laws of supply & demand with your parents’ purchasing power? YOU TOO were regularly likened to the most infamous serial rapists & murderers that preyed upon your (paid predetermined) gender? YOU TOO were trafficked and warehoused in an exponentially growing underground market of parents who abandon and trade their “forever children” with zero legal repercussions? YOU TOO survived government subsidized institutionalization to cure the “primal wound” of your conception and “inevitably sociopathic rage against your birth mother” wherein you were subjected to “therapies” that so violate every human rights convention on the planet they’ve resulted in the highest number of documented cases of child death-by-torture in modern history? YOU TOO had your true age, place of birth, parentage, and developmental history completely withheld from you by the entity that delivered you to your fam for aforementioned $30,000 - $50,000? YOU TOO have been the subject of economic recovery and bans? YOU TOO had the circumstances of your birth certificate(s) make a multinational-billion behemoth charged with mass abduction trip over itself to enlist your help to cover its own ass in an oncoming diplomatic standoff? YOU TOO have been roadblocked all access to your medical history in the midst of cancer treatment?
YOU TOO were told throughout childhood & adolescence that all your immediate family members were killed by a war responsible for your “salvation,” only to discover as an adult EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM STILL ALIVE.
How we doing here? 8 outta 10? Surely not less, seeing how you share “nearly all my experiences” of course.
Being bi/multi-racial does not actually endow you with ANY insight into being orphaned, a transracial adoptee, a transethnic adoptee, or a foster kid.
From a message you didn’t post: “I’m not saying that I have insight into the specifics of your adoption or adoptions in general, I’m referring to white families with children of color and how they systematically marginalize them despite the label of family. I am aware of the differences, I was only suggesting that it would be interesting to discuss what common ground we may have.”
I was specifically referring to the way in which white family members deal with family members of color, period. To pretend that I was going further than that is dishonest and ridiculous. I’m not going to respond to anything else you say, but I wanted to at least put it in context for folks who follow me.
Wow, brandx, no one is coming for your gold medal here. When people are sympathizing and being compassionate with an aspect of your life that is similar to theirs, how about you not be a freaking dick about it.
was gonna stay outta this but the black adoptee body counts just keeps stacking too high across my dash to have some ableist snot like you dismiss a transracial class bastards own lived experience and survival as OPPRESHUN OLYMPICS. of course to your basic existence such human rights violations sound ridiculous and grandiose. for us just another day that ends in y. if i had a nickel for every clueless “sympathizing” spawn who presumed to identify with our experience while desperately erasing the hells out of it, i could buy your nasty ass several times over at transnational adoption rate even.
"Wow, brandx, no one is coming for your gold medal here" Aaaand THIS is a perfect example of transracial adoptees are routinely silenced even by POC — an ugly truth I actually bothered to give Jordanbudd, which he blithely steamrolled over as he was only interested in using my identity to sign off on his bullshit preconceptions for a basic little piece already written a thousand times over at the expense of far more critical realities facing transracial adoptees. Jordanbudd is a lying shitbag, but Kweenlemon you take the cake as flat out child torture apologist “ally.” Take your worthless, ableist “sympathy” and choke on it.
I was too bored to point out how grossly common it is for biracial bio spawn to over-identify with transracial adoptees, so cheers to Indigoradix for articulating it just so! And as much as ignorant “sympathizers” wish this was about them, I wrote this post as a clarion call to any fellow adoptee out there whose gone through the same. But god forbid we notes our experience to those who claim to want to learn about us without the requisite traces of shame.
People talk a lot about wanting to save foster children and adoptees from lives of pain and torment, but then you have foster kids being aged out on to the streets when they come of age, RAD therapy consisting of just plain beating us up, and half the film and television plots out there either romanticizing us, sentimentalizing us, or using us as villains with Freudian excuses. So the general public view us as grandiose at best if we talk about our lives, or as pathetic or evil. Sometimes all three at once. That’s not even talking about the fuckery of how we wind up in the system, I’m just talking about what happens once we’re in. If you want to help us, think beyond taking us into your homes. Think about the laws that fuck up our lives and about the people that exploit us or make claims about us so they can freely abuse us.
Truth be told.
(^ via dickensianwerewolf)
yesssss. but then, these spawn don’t even respect our rights to hold on to our own birth family records. like they’d ever for one second respect our right to hold onto our own tags?
also, pro-tip for the general public:
Contrary to popular assumptions, the terms “transracial” and “transethnic” are NOT interchangeable. Just as race and ethnicity are not interchangeable.
Transracial adoptees can NEVER pass for white or as members of our necessarily more privileged adoptive families.
Transethnic adoptees however DO possess white/white-passing privilege and must own up to the fact, but they experience the same ethnocidal erasure in terms of heritage. Many transethnic adoptees today are Romani, indigenous, and/or Latin@.
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