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BRAND X

Orphaned transracial international ungrateful insurgent Class Bastard.

Posts tagged adoption

Jul 13 '14

lavenderpenny asked:

hey again! i hope you're well :-) so yes i've been reading through your reactive attachment disorder tag, i see RAD be attributed to a lot of murdered orphans by their adopted parents and from what i can see it seems to be a readily used excuse for abusive parents defending their actions? It's kind of confusing to me about whether it's a legitimate issue that gets misused by adoptive parents or a fabricated condition used against children who don't do exactly what their adoptive parents (...)
(…) expect them to. i’d like to know more about it if you have any resources or wouldn’t mind explaining it yourself? i hope my question makes sense!
Reactive Attachment Disorder (AKA Attachment Disorder) IS actually a legitimate condition.
But it’s ONLY applicable to children about 3 and under, entails completely responses, and is arguably not even a disorder (but Westerners gotta pathologize everything that isn’t 100% nuclear fam heteronormative, so). It means that if a child goes through a lot of displacement (orphanages, foster care etc.), they get confused as to who their primary caregivers are, so sometimes they attach to complete strangers.
But the pseudoscientific “attachment disorder” that adoptees & foster kids get branded with is commonly referred to as “serial killer syndrome.” Western adoption “experts” compare us to Adolf Hitler and Ted Bundy, which (given that the majority of adoptees worldwide are not white, Aryan, or male) can get grating, yes? Then there’s the fact that the “treatments” for RAD/AD are actual child abuse & torture.
I’ve gotten a bunch of new followers over recent flurry from some of my posts that got hijacked by Well-Intentioned Western(tm) spawn on RAD. And to them, I must say:
If you really are so irredeemably shitbrained to believe in that latter definition of attachment disorder, unfollow me right the fuck now. Seriously, that level of gullibility poses a danger. X
Jul 13 '14
Jul 13 '14

#196.

confessions-of-an-adoptee:

I was trans-racially adopted with my twin brother. We’re 24 and we have never spoken about it. I want more than anything to reclaim my heritage, and am in the process of learning Spanish (albeit slowly), and am beginning to learn my history. I want to talk to my brother about this, because he’s the only person who understand the situation blow-for-blow. But I’m so afraid that he isn’t affected like I am. I’m afraid he’ll think I’m blowing it out of proportion. I’m scared and I can’t decide if I’m willing to breach that confrontation and risk finding out that my blood doesn’t empathize and that I am, truly, alone. And if he isn’t in the same boat I am, then I don’t know if I can ever seek out my birthmother. If I were to meet her, how could I ever say “Your son doesn’t want to meet you. I am here by myself.”

Jul 11 '14
"While the purported purpose of the bill is to reduce the number of children in orphanages, the opposite will most certainly result. According to Kathryn Joyce in The Child Catchers intercountry adoptions actually increase the number of children living in institutions: “Children who were not unparented or homeless before end up becoming institutionalized as a direct result of orphanages setting up shop in poor areas.”

The adoption industry helps create these institutions, often funded in large part, by grateful adoptive parents. As we’ve seen in the Ethiopian case, practitioners may falsely claim children are orphans in order to line their pockets with American money.

Furthermore, increasing intercountry adoptions runs the risk that children will be placed in unsafe homes where they may be killed, abused, or dumped into another unsafe home, as the recent series of stories on “re-homing” has shown us. It also diverts money which could be used to help children remain within their families."

[Birth Mother] First Mother Forum: Encouraging intercountry adoptions with hard cash

this article starts with the line ‘when half the faculty at Harvard and Boston College Law Schools endorse a bill that encourages poor countries to take children from their mothers and send them to the United States for adoption, you’d think something was amiss’ and it’s probably a sign i read too many (or just enough) adoption blogs that my first thought was ‘i thought that was the whole point of international adoption’.

(via keelanrosa)

"Children who were not unparented or homeless before end up becoming institutionalized as a direct result of orphanages setting up shop in poor areas.”

Jul 11 '14
  • Mom: *says something racist*
  • Me: Mom that's racist.
  • Mom: How could I possibly be racist?! I have a Korean son and an African-American daughter!!!!
  • Me: *internalize the pain, internalize the exasperation, internalize the rage, internalize everything* Okay mom.
Jul 11 '14

dickensianwerewolf:

I think that’s what scariest about pro-lifers who insist that adoption is the solution to abortion. It’s eugenic, it’s racist, it’s about having total control over people you consider inferior. You decide if they have a child, you take the child away, you raise them in your own culture, you punish them very severely if they show allegiance to their heritage or are less than your ideal. It is terrifying rhetoric said with a smile, and it implies that all adoptees were potential abortions when many parents fight very hard to keep their children.

"Adoptees who are consciously dissociating themselves from their country of origin and see themselves as whites are interpreted as examples of successful adjustments, while interest in cultural heritage and biological roots is seen as an indication of poor mental health."
Tobias Hübinette

Jul 9 '14

shecalleditsavagery asked:

Hey, could you tell me more about your NGO work?

Refugee family preservation. While not the official focus (no major NGO on earth places such direct importance on birth parents), the people I work with are at least smart enough to know that if a kid’s stuck in a strange land where they don’t speak the language and clearly don’t fit in, all after having their home obliterated by neo-imperialists (oh sorry, ‘nation builders’), the LAST thing they need is to to be taken away from whatever family they have left.

I also still consult for different child advocacy groups on international abuse epidemics that specifically target adoptees & foster children.

Jul 9 '14

tranqualizer:

i’m so over these studies that are like “the children of gay/lesbian couples perform better than those of heterosexual couples” because they basically still reinforce heteronormative nuclear families without really considering/examining/critiquing the ways in which non-normative families are constructed, queer or not, and how they’re influenced by race, class, gender, etc. 

but i’m not a gay white man adopting little brown children so

Jul 8 '14

ms-mix-remixed:

Okay but seriously let me ever meet a bitch that thinks that transracial is a legitimate thing like transgender

sistahmamaqueen:

b-binaohan:

ms-mix-remixed:

You wish you were ___________? You think it’s “cute” to be mixed?

Bitch please

Get your no-nothing white ass up out that chair at Starbucks and go talk to some mixed folk.

Talk to them about what it feels like to not look like what they think they should.

So I agree with the sentiment and all white people must be stopped 2K14, but transracial is a thing as in transracial adoptees, most often children of color adopted by white people.

So, it’d be great if you could ya’ know, get it right before making things hard for people who identify rightly with the word transracial.

Thanks!

Also I’m pretty sure the term ya’ll are looking for is transethnic?

I know that transracial is the word used to describe adoptions where the adoptee is a different race than their new family, and when I was writing this I did not conflate the two. Nor did I conflate the experiences of someone who is transracially adopted with the experiences of a white person who believes that they are another race “on the inside.” 

However, this does not mean that the way I chose to use my language in this post was appropriate or effective if those two experiences could be confused for one another or taken as the same or similar after reading this. I will make it a point to use transethnic from now on. 

I am extremely sorry if this post invalidated the experiences of any transracial adoptees: you are more than welcome to message me with any critiques or concerns regarding my language in this post.

Thanks for looking out,

Ms Mix

Transethnic is a legitimate term. It signifies adoptees who are (or can pass for) the same race as their adoptive family, but are of a different ethnicity. It encompasses every international adoption on the planet, and many domestic ones as well.

Its history dates back to World War II, but the terminology remains lesser known in North America, though increasing numbers of white & white-passing adoptees there are identifying with it as they discover and reclaim their birth heritage. It’s very common for children to be trafficked/coerced from indigenous nations, then passed off by agencies as “Italian” or “French Canadian” in order to avoid the Indian Child Welfare Act and other protective regulations.

Your apology is appreciated and you seem like a class act, so I’ll take the time to inform you that by posting “TRANSRACIAL/ETHNIC ISN’T A LEGIT THING” without so much as mentioning adoptees (we really are sick of these common-as-dirt posts by now kthnx), you’re actually aiding the racist spawn who’ve hijacked our terms and contributing to the oppressively bullshit notion that adoptees who are ‘transracial’ are “white on the inside.

And unless you’re posting adoption related-content, please stay out of the #transracial and #transethnic tags. Most of us are raised in all-white areas, and for many the internet is still the ONLY means of connecting with fellow POC and adoptees. X

Jul 8 '14

quiltbagging asked:

As a transracial adoptee living in a near all-white (read: segregated) area, I realized that the huge majority of the time when I see someone of my race, they are also transracially adopted by white people. This is so fucked up.

Yep. It is. For a long time, the only contact I had with fellow POC and adoptees was online. Suffice to say, I grew up and got the hell out.

I’m sorry your area’s so white and segregated. Just know that it takes rare courage and strength of mind to be raised in such an isolated miasma of whiteness, only to defy everyone’s expectations and break through and see the fog for what it is. X