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Linda Rosa, RN (via iwasthesilentgirl)
fyi: Hundreds of millions of taxpayer dollars have been spent on what the American Professional Society on the Abuse of Children officially disavows as institutionalized child torture masquerading as therapy.
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It bothers me a lot that I will never know the name my birth mother gave me or even the actual day I was born. These may seem like incredibly insignificant details to other people but you only notice how important they are when you don’t know your ‘real’ name or real birthday. Does it bother you guys too?
Yes, but moreso on a political level. Personally* it doesn’t bother me anywhere near as much as people ignorant enough to buy into the ableist superstition that adoptees are “primally wounded” burgeoning serial killers will assume.
I empathize with and support any and all adoptees who are greatly bothered by the erasure of the profound makings of identity. We are a marginalized and oppressed class. We are NOT “attachment disordered” we are NOT “damaged goods,” and we do NOT have “Ted Bundy disease.”
(*It IS a total infuriating pain in the ass being denied access to one’s medical history/ having it erased altogether tho)
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yr my number one tumblr crush. that is all.
Apologies for the late reply, that recent endorsement of ableist child torture from thisisnotaboutadoption whatshisface left a nasty taste in my craw and i unplugged for a while. back now, so i thank you and im such a huge fan of your writing and it bears repeating that everyone on this platform needs to be following you, you Classiest of Class Bastards. X
Having a really bad week.
I really want to start/restart my Korean family search, but I don’t know if I have the emotional fortitude to do it effectively. Last time, I ultimately let it fall by the wayside because I was so discouraged by all the dead ends. I can’t imagine it gets easier.
My husband’s grandma died last week, and I think the idea of death and our finite time on this earth, the whole idea of losing a mother, is hitting me harder than I thought, and I think that’s what has brought this family search back to the forefront of my priorities. Because what if she dies and I never get the chance to meet her? I’m not sure I’d be able to live with myself if I knew I could’ve searched harder, longer, more persistently and didn’t…and then she died.
I just honestly don’t know where to go from here. My life is such that I cannot pick up and move to Korea for any length of time to do in-depth investigations. I’ve already gone through the traditional avenues (Holt and KAS) and was met with road blocks and zero information at both places. Just the realization that I don’t know what the next step is or how to pick back up or who to talk to is enough to make me burst into tears. I feel so helpless and lost and that’s the worst feeling. What if there’s a family in Korea that I have no way of accessing?
Sometimes I honestly feel like giving up on life, because this—the one thing I want more than anything—is so impossible that nothing else in the world seems worthwhile anymore.
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Attachment Therapy (AT) is a growing, underground movement for the “treatment” of children who pose disciplinary problems to their parents or caregivers. AT practitioners allege that the root cause of the children’s misbehavior is a failure to “attach” to their caregivers. The purported correction by AT is — literally — to force the children into loving (attaching to) their parents.
The methods employed in AT are among the most disrespectful, degrading, insensitive, and harsh (i.e., brutal) imaginable. They are intended to overcome the resistance of a child to total obedience to the mother. They are employed until the child’s will is completely broken. If a child is stubbornly resistant to the treatment or the desired outcome — as understandably he or she often is — the brutality of the treatments escalates. This can go on, around the clock, for months or years.
Most often the children targeted for AT are those who have been adopted or are in foster care; a disproportionate number are of minority race or ethnicity, are autistic, or have physical disabilities.
AT has two major components to it. First, there is a hands-on treatment involving physical restraint and discomfort, termed psychotherapy by the professional or paraprofessional “therapists” who carry it out. This is usually accompanied by the second component, a phalanx of parenting techniques which brings AT brutality into the home, on a 24/7 basis. Both components are without basis in psychological theory or research evidence.
- ACT (Advocates for Children in Therapy)
To hell with anyone who propagates this racist, ableist child torture, wittingly or otherwise.
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