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BRAND X

Orphaned transracial international ungrateful insurgent Class Bastard.

Posts tagged adoptee

Oct 1 '14

aerialklove:

I write like nobody will see my blog. I tell my story like nobody will ever read it. That’s the best way for me to express the emotions and feelings that I keep jarred up. I want to tell my story, and the day to day stuff, as raw as possible. I think the truth is so distorted and entangled with the reality of things that my family ( both of them)  will be in totally shocked if they were to read my blog. My mom knows I am a writer and that I write as honestly as possible. She would probably believe my writing before she believes what comes out of my mouth. I think I write like that because my feelings where never validated. I felt like I always had to be happy. I felt like I wasn’t allow to cry over the inner turmoil I struggled with. I am pretty sure that’s what lead to my self harming.  I would dig my nails into my skin and hit myself ( on my thighs) when I got angry. I was angry a lot. I would hurt myself before I let myself hurt anybody else. You are allowed to cry when people can see your cuts and bruises but being bruised on the inside and not being able to say help me is not an easy thing to deal with. Writing became my positive coping mechanism. It saved my life.

Oct 1 '14

gatesofsummer:

Seeing pictures or videos of myself as a baby has always been rather disturbing.  The agency that I was adopted through after foster care recorded the moment when I was given to my adoptive parents, and I’ve seen the footage multiple times.  (I was actually used as the poster child for the agency for a while; not sure how I feel about that.)  When I look at that baby, it doesn’t feel like me.

It’s almost like I think of my infant self as a different person.

Oct 1 '14

bastardplanet:

sharkradish:

fifthblackbird:

being the adopted child of an adoptee is weird af like i have my own identity issues to deal with, but then i have my mother’s bio and adopted family history to try to sort through and basically adoptee life is just one big clusterfuck of misinformation 

This post resonates with me so much. My father was also an orphan, adopted domestically. He passed away a few days ago, and now that he’s gone it feels like the chance to know so much family history and heritage is lost, even more than before. I’m still in shock.

It’s hard finding other adoptees, much less adoptees of adoptees. I don’t know you and this is a difficult introduction to say the least, but I hope you’re well and I’m so glad to have found your words.

We are so sorry for your loss.

Our hearts go out to you.

Oct 1 '14
"I’ve always tried to make a home for myself, but I have not felt at home in myself. I’ve worked hard at being the hero of my own life. But every time I checked the register of displaced persons, I was still on it. I didn’t know how to belong. Longing? Yes. Belonging? No."
Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal? (via bastardplanet)

(Source: sharkradish)

Sep 30 '14

korwegianseoul:

Saw this posted….an adoptee is forbidden to learn his language where he is from as his adoptive father forbids it.  Normally I don’t use the term adoptive but in this case this father doesn’t deserve to be called a father with his narrow minded thinking!  

All adoptive parent’s please do not be like this prick of an adoptive dad. We as adoptees need to know about our history, our identity.  It doesn’t mean we are leaving you.  By doing this you are just pushing your adopted kid out of your family when all they needed was loving support. 

This is ethnocide, plain and simple.

Sep 29 '14
Sep 29 '14

What if….

zomboid-vandal:

aerialklove:

As an adoptee I get a lot of what if questions. What if you wasn’t adopted? What if you were adopted by a White family? What if you and your twin brother was split up? I don’t really like these types of questions. Do you all like answering these types of questions?

nope. it’s annoying and the people never ask because they actually give a shit - they just want to satisfy their own curiosity. 

Co-signed.

I’d actually be willing to discuss such things with fellow adoptees, but adoptees don’t ask these questions because we know just how invasive and inappropriate they are.

Sep 14 '14

fifthblackbird:

being the adopted child of an adoptee is weird af like i have my own identity issues to deal with, but then i have my mother’s bio and adopted family history to try to sort through and basically adoptee life is just one big clusterfuck of misinformation 

Sep 14 '14

note to followers

the ONLY people I maintain this space for are myself (decolonizing my mind) and fellow orphans, adoptees, and foster kids.
And to a certain extent, POC and indigenous parents looking to protect their communities against ethnocidal “Kill the Native, Save the Child” programs both international and domestic.

If you belong to one of the aforementioned groups, feel free to get in touch. There are a surprising number of class bastards on here, which is glorious, but it can be hard to find peers because there aren’t so many who post about adoption and orphanhood, which is also cool though, you do YOU bbs. <3

If you don’t belong to one of the aforementioned groups, you’re welcome to introduce yourself, but I really don’t give a fig one way or the other if you stick around, and I definitely don’t care about educating you. Sorry not sorry. 
X

(Source: brandx)

Sep 13 '14

99% of media portrayals of adopted kids

  • scenario 1: no problems ever! graciously rescued from a broken home/impoverished or war-torn country! unquestioningly grateful and indebted to their adoptive family! has nothing but 100% good things to say about being adopted, all the time!
  • scenario 2: absolutely miserable. aggressively resentful of adopted family and of their adoption. will petulantly respond to even the most gentle of requests with proclamations of "you're not my real family!" usually a rebel/delinquent/generally maladjusted and sometimes even violent.
  • The other 1%? Aliens. Seriously.