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BRAND X

Orphaned transracial international ungrateful insurgent Class Bastard.
Sep 15 '14

White People Need Not Always Reply

  • Me: "*rolls eyes* *files nails*"
  • White person: "Oh wow, are you angry while getting a manicure?"
  • Me: "Winning!" (in reply to someone telling me something awesome)
  • White person: "What sport do you play?"
  • Me: "Girrrrrrl..." (in reply to a Black woman)
  • White person: "Okay girlfriend! Sister! I raise my fist too!"
  • Me: "Wah gwan?"
  • White person: "I went to Jamaica once! I got cornrows!"
  • Me: "About to watch a movie."
  • White person: "Well watch these 15 films, here are 7 links to my favorite TV shows, buy these 86 DVDs and I will DM you every cinema experience I ever had. Did you want my Netflix listing? Who's your favorite actor? Do you watch Tyler Perry? Halle Berry is so hot!"
  • Me: "Ashy Larry Twitter, wayment, whatchu talmbout?"
  • White person: "I am 3 of 5. Resistance is futile. Must now either degrade AAVE or use AAVE. Resistance is futile."
  • Me: "So when Black men..."
  • White person: "All men; there is no racism or specific issues for Black men. All. ALL. AAAALLLL!!!!"
  • Me: "So, fellow Black women..."
  • White person: "ALL women. Ally! You're divisive. What about feminism? Unity! Me me me me me."
  • Me: "So this particular issue in the Black community..."
  • White person: "Hey, what about ALL humans? Race is a social construct thereby racism is imaginary. [Blah blah], [hot air], [misdirection], [derailment], [false equalization], [ahistorical analysis], [anti-intersectionality], [White privilege], [ad hominem], [racism], [White supremacy], [White Tears™], meeeeeeee!"
Sep 14 '14

How White Supremacy Creates Paternalism and Violence In “Sex Positivity” Discourse

gradientlair:

I find “sex positivity” politics to be paternalistic and violent. Paternalistic and violent. My tolerance for it is at about the level of my tolerance of street harassment now. These politics remain White supremacist, cishet-focused and anti-intersectional. They are about forced sexuality in unwelcome spaces (and then judgment when that force is critiqued) and assault (when people are aware of others’ boundaries, have been made aware several times and yet find pleasure not in their sexual freedom itself, but in denying choice to others) more than about empowerment for all women since no one sexual politic about “all women” could exist any more than any one articulation of feminism in praxis could ever exist

If intersectionality (H/T Kimberlé Crenshaw) reveals that not all women experience gender in the same way, if it shows that not all women—even ones that share race/gender/class/sexual orientation oppression for which intersectionality itself was first articulated on—experience oppression in the same way, why on earth would a politics of “sex positivity” that continues to center Whiteness, heterosexuality, phallocentrism, and almost a willful disregard for the varying histories of sexual politics for women who are not White (and especially Black women for whom the construction of White womanhood could not exist without making Black womanhood the antithesis) be something accurate and of interest to me?

There is no articulation of “sex positivity” by mainstream feminism that will ever mean anything to me. It is regularly paternalism and violence. In the same way that their feminism itself does not speak to my experience and I regularly have to avoid it or interrogate it—hence womanism shapes my lens by which I view, experience and challenge the world—is the same way that I have to avoid or interrogate their “sex positivity” politics. One can only be triggered on a daily basis for so long. One can only stomach the paternalism of White sermons about how sex is “political” for some people for so long. Oh how nice, sexual politics history from women who are always considered human and “people” to start with. Must be nice. (Really White women, you’re gonna educate me on feminism? This is laughable. Check the repertoire.) This paternalism is what causes their concern trolling for Black women who express their sexuality freely and openly yet judgment for ones whose sexual politics may more often involve the word NO, as I wrote about in For Me, Sex Positivity Involves The Word “NO.”

For some reason, lack of discernment and lack of respect for boundaries is now called “liberation.” So, I have to applaud every disgusting, poorly made, hideous, and violent sexual Vine video that comes across my Twitter timeline or is forced into my mentions to “prove” how “sex positive” I am. Every sexual photo, especially of a phallus, must be praised. Every non-sexual conversation that I have in peace with someone that I actually like in social media—which is so, so few people—has to be forcefully turned into a conversation where someone who I have never seen in my life then discusses their sexual intercourse frequency, desires, or fantasies. Every time I share an image of a celebrity or “beautiful” person, I can’t get replies on the quality of the photograph (I’m a photographer, sue me) and the beauty of the person (since other types of attraction exist; not solely sexual); people have to go a step further with graphic sexual explanations and forced and repeated sexual commentary that dominates my Twitter mentions for hours or days. I don’t even mean simple sexual comments such as "my body is ready" or "that person in the photo can get it!" which coming from people that I know and trust can be very funny and jokes I’ve made myself (though admittedly I don’t want to hear this every single time I share a photo). These comments that I am speaking of are usually much more graphic and violent at times. Worse, these people will then conflate my rejection of their violence as me being anti-sex in general or anti-sex work which is categorically false. Their slander is attached to the idea that I must accept their violence to “prove” I support women.

Much of this endless violence on a daily basis—yes, a daily and at times hourly occurrence—is only in response to the last several months of me discussing asexuality. Some of this is very new abuse. Some people who would’ve never said a thing to me about sex before now do so solely because I write about asexuality. People feel that I should be punished for this identification because of several factors. In general, asexuality is misunderstood and/or hated. It is the one time I’ve watched some queer people align with their oppressors, some heterosexual people, to degrade asexual people. They’re a team on the topic. A lot of it has to do with how I am perceived in the male gaze—as “pretty” quite often, thereby I should automatically be “available” to men, particularly cishet Black men. If a person is viewed as “attractive” then how dare they choose not to be sexual (though some asexual people have had sex before and/or do have sex; attraction is not behavior). It also has to do with how I am perceived in the White Gaze—as a Black woman, thereby “hypersexual” and automatically heterosexual. Thus, speaking of my perspectives and experiences as an ace violates other people’s perception of who I should be and thereby they feel that I should be punished. Hence the paternalism and violence.

Obviously being a Black woman complicates this. Some White women behave as if they’re getting “street cred” by forcing sexual conversations with me. This is why at past jobs White women would immediately tell me about all of the Black men they’ve fucked or their sexual desires when I barely cleared my 90 days at jobs, when we had no relationship other than getting paychecks from the same place. Their consistent need to dominate and consume where Black bodies are concerned shapes their “sex positivity.” It feeds their eat pray love syndrome of “slumming” and fucking their way to “liberation” by use of Black bodies and bodies of colour as tools and props. And when the racism involved in this “sex positivity” is called out, they claim it is “misogyny” even if the ones doing the calling out are Black women. If the “purity” of White womanhood is “liberated” by mimicking the stereotypical concept of the “deviance” of Black womanhood, then they have to project every sexual action—whether words, forced conversations, stereotypes, cultural appropriation, or actual sex with Black people—onto any Black people that they can. What better person to do it on than a Black woman who is an ace since to them asexuality for Black women has always meant the loving “mammy” who listens, not the sexual orientation and empowered stance that asexuality can be and is for me, as I wrote about in Black Womanhood, Asexuality and Agency. Instead, asexuality, queerness and heterosexuality for Black women is viewed as “the mammy,” “the deviant” and “the Jezebel” in the White Gaze. Oh boy, oh boy the White supremacy to unpack from “sex positivity” makes my skin fucking crawl. The impact of White supremacy on sexuality itself is something that I discussed in The Large Space That White Supremacy Occupies In Conversations About Sexuality.

"Sex positivity" as articulated by Black women hasn’t been perfect for me either, but much better and definitely much safer. While there are a few Black women who also do not seem to understand boundaries and respect, feel that forced sexuality conversation is “freedom” (and why they do is much different from why White women do), and that “sex positivity” is more performative than intrinsic to Black feminist or womanist politics, many have to be told something only once. If I say, “well this particular thing is a NO for me” they’re told once. We don’t argue about it on a daily basis. There’s no paternalism or violence. And this definitely is shaped by the fact that our bodies and sexual choices have been colonized for so long that some of us are committed to not also being oppressors. It’s more imperative for us since our value as human beings is regularly tied to sexuality based on misogynoiristic lies and oppressive constructions such as controlling images. Black women don’t have the luxury of pretending that “sex positivity” as articulated by mainstream feminism is a blanket liberating tool. Most of it rests on the notion of “deviant” Black womanhood anyway. That’s why Black women clearly make more effort and intersectionality is considered in “sex positivity” as opposed to a space where our liberation is based on the degradation of another woman in the way that mainstream feminism’s “sex positivity” remains anti-intersectional while standing on the backs of women who aren’t cishet and White. (When I want to hear and experience messages of what doesn’t feel like abusive and oppressive notions about sexuality, I often turn to some Black women’s music.)

I’ve talked to Black women about consent, dating, sexual intercourse, sexual orientation, desire, same-race relationships, interracial relationships, celibacy, BDSM, sex work and more with an ease and safety that is not there for me with Whites or men. And since the latter refuse to acknowledge how stereotypes about who I am as a Black woman matters to them more than who I am, Trudy, the person they may have followed online for months or years, their conversations remain cyclically abusive, paternalistic and down right violent. For the ones who aren’t simply ignorant and presumptuous about my sexual orientation and sexuality, it’s purposeful harm they’re engaging in. Their need to harm me is so important, as if they do not already harm me via their privilege and via White supremacy and patriarchy which benefits them. So this “extra” need to harm on an interpersonal level is so caustically violent and sickening. Worse, some seem to equate my choice to engage in conversation about sexuality at times with permission for them to use that discourse to harm me at unrelated and/or non-consensual times. I do not feel safe discussing anything about sexuality with Whites (and I mean in a sociopolitical sense; I am NOT making a value judgment on interpersonal interracial relationships). 

I am done with “sex positivity” as it is currently articulated. I don’t want this White supremacist capitalist cisheteropatriarchal construction anywhere near me any more than I want mainstream feminism anywhere near me. In fact, I would argue that it IS mainstream feminism. My womanism is always one that embraces people of any sexual orientation, the right to any consensual sexual choices or non-sexual choices without stigma and shame rooted in oppression that facilitate oppression, the space for intersectional perspectives on sexuality and why notions of gender, womanhood, choice and agency vary, and the space to acknowledge while respect of choice and agency themselves is critical, actual worshipping of each individual choice even when that choice is harmful for me as a Black woman and only benefits White women is antithetical to the wholeness that womanism articulates. My womanism is not one that can indulge White supremacy as “sex positive.” 

Sexual politics will never be intersectionality-neutral space. As long as “sex positivity” remains about forcing sexuality and only particular conceptions of sexuality, it will remain abusive and beneficial only to a very small group of women, the same ones who regularly get to decide what is feminist or not while standing on the backs of the women they’re judging. If “sex positivity” means that White women get to decide what my boundaries are, it is White supremacy. If it means that only sexual intercourse itself matters, not all the politics that shape sex long before the bedroom, it will remain patriarchal. If it means that the history of the colonization of Black women’s bodies must be excluded from the conversation when that colonization is what White womanhood itself cannot exist without, it will remain oppressive.

A week ago someone said to me that they thought that “sex positivity” was supposed to be "sex is good." I replied I thought it was ”any consensual sexual or non-sexual choice should be considered valid and stigma-free.” Obviously my thoughts on the matter don’t even remotely relate to “sex positivity.” I was delusional. And of course the "if it’s not perfect, then it’s not the thing mentioned" people will come to derail. The same ones who claim TERFs or racists aren’t “real” feminists because they don’t want to take responsibility for how actual feminists harm will claim that the people who do what I have described here aren’t “really” “sex positive.” They can save it. My disinterest is palpable.

I have no problem with sexuality itself; clearly. I discuss it often with responsible people, which of course is then derailed by violent notions of “sex positivity” or the actual “sex is shame” type of respectability politics-loving patriarchal misogynoiristic type of people. My problem is about *how* people choose to engage me on the topic; without consent, with paternalism and with a frame of violence. My problem with “sex positivity” as popularly articulated is my problem with White supremacy or patriarchy. It oppresses me. It does not liberate me. This "we’ll show them!" attitude where since sex is shamed then forced sexuality becomes pride is a binary that I want no part of. The fact that people need to “perform” their non-consensual “sex positivity” for me on a triggering hourly/daily basis—especially after asked not to on a daily basis—is violence. There’s nothing “positive” about it. 

Related Post: Physical Arousal As “Proof” Of The Non-Existence of Asexuality Is Bigoted And Supports Rape Culture

Sep 14 '14

fifthblackbird:

being the adopted child of an adoptee is weird af like i have my own identity issues to deal with, but then i have my mother’s bio and adopted family history to try to sort through and basically adoptee life is just one big clusterfuck of misinformation 

Sep 14 '14

Kusukazu UraguchiShima no Ama” (Ama Diver Women of Japan)

(Source: gouldbookbinder)

Sep 14 '14

note to followers

the ONLY people I maintain this space for are myself (decolonizing my mind) and fellow orphans, adoptees, and foster kids.
And to a certain extent, POC and indigenous parents looking to protect their communities against ethnocidal “Kill the Native, Save the Child” programs both international and domestic.

If you belong to one of the aforementioned groups, feel free to get in touch. There are a surprising number of class bastards on here, which is glorious, but it can be hard to find peers because there aren’t so many who post about adoption and orphanhood, which is also cool though, you do YOU bbs. <3

If you don’t belong to one of the aforementioned groups, you’re welcome to introduce yourself, but I really don’t give a fig one way or the other if you stick around, and I definitely don’t care about educating you. Sorry not sorry. 
X

(Source: brandx)

Sep 14 '14
seekingwillow:

king-emare:

onlyblackgirl:

pastel-gizibe:

note-a-bear:

the-chandelier-swing:

blackfemalepresident:

steppauseturnpausepivotstepstep:

brandx:



U.S. Mother Gives Away 5-Year-Old Adopted Child From Haiti For Throwing Temper Tantrum




"Having an instant multicultural family was magical for about two weeks,” says Stacey Conner, a 41-year-old American mom from Spokane, Washington.
After she volunteered in an orphanage in Haiti in 2005, Conner and her husband adopted a 5-year-old Haitian boy named “J.”
Conner claims the boy had attachment disorder and began a strict regimen of attachment parenting of constant surveillance in which a child must often ask for food and water. After two months, J threw a tantrum where he unintentionally hit Conner’s nose with the back of his head.
Conner says the 5-year-old’s strike was accidental, but describes it as “a domestic violence situation. Forget love. Right then, I didn’t even like J.”

J was sent to live with another family in the Midwest. Conner’s biological children adjusted seamlessly to life without their adoptive brother. But other people were puzzled. Neighbors who had seen J riding his bike asked, “Where’s your son?” When Conner answered truthfully, “I’d get the most horrified stares, so I’d keep walking. And I didn’t tell many out-of-town friends or extended family for months.”

Despite such events, the Conners were approved by local social workers to become a foster family, and in October 2013 received a 3-month-old boy as their first placement.

Sources: [x] [x]


white people will let their white kids karate chop them in the throat and call them names in public, but a black child becomes naturally upset after you treat the kid like a grown criminal/animal and you just give them away. go it. sounds reasonable.

"i’d get the most horrified stares"geewonder why

This is why we don’t trust y’all white savior “oh check out this profile pic of me and these smiling poor brown children. You can tell I really made a difference” asses

The fact that for the most part these people are allowed to do shit like this with no legal punishment or recourse on behalf of the children being abused is mind boggling.

She literally treated that child like a dog.
Actually no, she’d probably treat a dog better.
Accidents like that happen all the time with children, and her first instinct is to stop loving the child and give it away?
I can’t.
I hope that beautiful boy is okay, and with a family that treats him like gold.

Welcome to the adoption industry where they give zero fucks about the well being of the child.

smh

___
I see NO LIES to the amont of YT PPL bullshit. I will add one thing though. To be taken away from your birth family when you’re old enough to remember them and miss them and end up with a new family is TRAUMATIC - no matter what else may also have happened.
A bunch of these yt savior types are in NO WAY trained or prepared to deal with a child in trauma. On top of it, they expect the fawning gratitude of an adult who knows the game AND who’s DECIDED to play along. And then they have the nerve to call not respecting a child’s trauma, their personal and physical boundaries and letting them have a chance to be themselves? ‘Attachment Disorder’.
Yt ppl can be there for their own children, can be there in  remote way for other people’s murdering and/or mass shooter, mass massacre children - as long as the general consensus (esp as framed by news media) is that the multiple murderer never gave their parents any much trouble and was quiet and respectful (Though how respectful is murder, really?).
But let them ‘designer shop’ for a child, like in the days of slavery of wanting a human pet to look nice enough and perform tricks and reflect on them and said ‘purchase’ does not turn out the way they want? They fall to this; “I”ll MAKE your ass grovel’ - ask me for food and water or get nothing, bullshit.” At what point ever does anyone in their right mind make an infant beg for something? Why make a toddler or a pre-schooler?
If these children were ‘animals’? They’d be advised to take things slow and EARN trust, let the animal feel settled; lots of talk of ‘forever homes’. But it’s a child and not a pet refusing to snuggle all up on you and you’re gonna intimidate a sense of family into them??!!
And I’ll admit 90% of the time that child is a black or brown child, but I won’t ignore how they treat white seeming children from other countries - how they adopt Russian children not even speaking the language and then send them back like broken toys. But it’s the black and brown kids they ‘pass around’ and ‘rehome’.
REHOME.
Y’all don’t want to get me into ranting on this, cause I’ve been looking this shit up more than half a year.
Y’know what’s even more heinous? Pets; dogs and cats? Have all sorts of ‘Rescue’ Groups, which will come up in your house to determine if you’re a good fit for an animal, as much as any SPCA (or responsible breeder). But they rehome children via the effing internet; through list groups, email lists, Craig’s list, facebook page groups and more.
They list CHILDREN as; “Cute little brown boy but obstinate and willful, may bite or smack.”
Tell me, TELL ME that isn’t the old ‘slave for sale’ in the newspapers. I swear only yt ppl will tell me they aren’t being smacked in the face by history.
Never trust yt adoptive parents. Just, never trust them. I’m not saying other types may not have their problems. But yt adoptive parents (as a whole) of overseas, especially black and brown children are living out a slavery fantasy whether or not they want to consciously admit it. “Look at what I picked up from Haiti / Guatemala /  China, isn’t he or she just darling, look what they can do. They’re nothing like that poor choice so and so made, she had to send that one back / rehome that child - who’d want that in their house’.
I can’t even people. Cannot even.
There is documented proof, there will be documented proof for years, of how yt ppl will claim to open their arms, hearts and homes to an individual and how it doesn’t mean shit due to their me vs them, us vs them mentality.  You better be asking how high on the way UP if they ask you to jump; don’t matter if you’re 2 or 20. Your life and sense of security don’t mean shit to them.
And it’s a whole other rant how black and brown families have been struggling for years to get kin foster care on the books and made a thing and have different necessary parenting classes since it starts off with a different relationship; how it’s taken YEARS for the infrastructure to conceed it’s in a child’s best interest to go to a grandmother, great aunt, uncle etc than complete strangers.
Yt ppl gave up their sense of community, real community in order to be yt; cause they were emulating the upper crust who have money to fall back on, and thus can ‘buy’ servants and don’t need to invest in community and be invested in in turn.

Reblogging for commentary. ^ X

seekingwillow:

king-emare:

onlyblackgirl:

pastel-gizibe:

note-a-bear:

the-chandelier-swing:

blackfemalepresident:

steppauseturnpausepivotstepstep:

brandx:

U.S. Mother Gives Away 5-Year-Old Adopted Child From Haiti For Throwing Temper Tantrum

"Having an instant multicultural family was magical for about two weeks,” says Stacey Conner, a 41-year-old American mom from Spokane, Washington.

After she volunteered in an orphanage in Haiti in 2005, Conner and her husband adopted a 5-year-old Haitian boy named “J.”

Conner claims the boy had attachment disorder and began a strict regimen of attachment parenting of constant surveillance in which a child must often ask for food and water. After two months, J threw a tantrum where he unintentionally hit Conner’s nose with the back of his head.

Conner says the 5-year-old’s strike was accidental, but describes it as “a domestic violence situation. Forget love. Right then, I didn’t even like J.”

J was sent to live with another family in the Midwest. Conner’s biological children adjusted seamlessly to life without their adoptive brother. But other people were puzzled. Neighbors who had seen J riding his bike asked, “Where’s your son?” When Conner answered truthfully, “I’d get the most horrified stares, so I’d keep walking. And I didn’t tell many out-of-town friends or extended family for months.”
Despite such events, the Conners were approved by local social workers to become a foster family, and in October 2013 received a 3-month-old boy as their first placement.
Sources: [x] [x]

white people will let their white kids karate chop them in the throat and call them names in public, but a black child becomes naturally upset after you treat the kid like a grown criminal/animal and you just give them away. go it. sounds reasonable.

"i’d get the most horrified stares"
gee
wonder why

This is why we don’t trust y’all white savior “oh check out this profile pic of me and these smiling poor brown children. You can tell I really made a difference” asses

The fact that for the most part these people are allowed to do shit like this with no legal punishment or recourse on behalf of the children being abused is mind boggling.

She literally treated that child like a dog.

Actually no, she’d probably treat a dog better.

Accidents like that happen all the time with children, and her first instinct is to stop loving the child and give it away?

I can’t.

I hope that beautiful boy is okay, and with a family that treats him like gold.

Welcome to the adoption industry where they give zero fucks about the well being of the child.

smh

___

I see NO LIES to the amont of YT PPL bullshit. I will add one thing though. To be taken away from your birth family when you’re old enough to remember them and miss them and end up with a new family is TRAUMATIC - no matter what else may also have happened.

A bunch of these yt savior types are in NO WAY trained or prepared to deal with a child in trauma. On top of it, they expect the fawning gratitude of an adult who knows the game AND who’s DECIDED to play along. And then they have the nerve to call not respecting a child’s trauma, their personal and physical boundaries and letting them have a chance to be themselves? ‘Attachment Disorder’.

Yt ppl can be there for their own children, can be there in  remote way for other people’s murdering and/or mass shooter, mass massacre children - as long as the general consensus (esp as framed by news media) is that the multiple murderer never gave their parents any much trouble and was quiet and respectful (Though how respectful is murder, really?).

But let them ‘designer shop’ for a child, like in the days of slavery of wanting a human pet to look nice enough and perform tricks and reflect on them and said ‘purchase’ does not turn out the way they want? They fall to this; “I”ll MAKE your ass grovel’ - ask me for food and water or get nothing, bullshit.” At what point ever does anyone in their right mind make an infant beg for something? Why make a toddler or a pre-schooler?

If these children were ‘animals’? They’d be advised to take things slow and EARN trust, let the animal feel settled; lots of talk of ‘forever homes’. But it’s a child and not a pet refusing to snuggle all up on you and you’re gonna intimidate a sense of family into them??!!

And I’ll admit 90% of the time that child is a black or brown child, but I won’t ignore how they treat white seeming children from other countries - how they adopt Russian children not even speaking the language and then send them back like broken toys. But it’s the black and brown kids they ‘pass around’ and ‘rehome’.

REHOME.

Y’all don’t want to get me into ranting on this, cause I’ve been looking this shit up more than half a year.

Y’know what’s even more heinous? Pets; dogs and cats? Have all sorts of ‘Rescue’ Groups, which will come up in your house to determine if you’re a good fit for an animal, as much as any SPCA (or responsible breeder). But they rehome children via the effing internet; through list groups, email lists, Craig’s list, facebook page groups and more.

They list CHILDREN as; “Cute little brown boy but obstinate and willful, may bite or smack.”

Tell me, TELL ME that isn’t the old ‘slave for sale’ in the newspapers. I swear only yt ppl will tell me they aren’t being smacked in the face by history.

Never trust yt adoptive parents. Just, never trust them. I’m not saying other types may not have their problems. But yt adoptive parents (as a whole) of overseas, especially black and brown children are living out a slavery fantasy whether or not they want to consciously admit it. “Look at what I picked up from Haiti / Guatemala /  China, isn’t he or she just darling, look what they can do. They’re nothing like that poor choice so and so made, she had to send that one back / rehome that child - who’d want that in their house’.

I can’t even people. Cannot even.

There is documented proof, there will be documented proof for years, of how yt ppl will claim to open their arms, hearts and homes to an individual and how it doesn’t mean shit due to their me vs them, us vs them mentality.  You better be asking how high on the way UP if they ask you to jump; don’t matter if you’re 2 or 20. Your life and sense of security don’t mean shit to them.

And it’s a whole other rant how black and brown families have been struggling for years to get kin foster care on the books and made a thing and have different necessary parenting classes since it starts off with a different relationship; how it’s taken YEARS for the infrastructure to conceed it’s in a child’s best interest to go to a grandmother, great aunt, uncle etc than complete strangers.

Yt ppl gave up their sense of community, real community in order to be yt; cause they were emulating the upper crust who have money to fall back on, and thus can ‘buy’ servants and don’t need to invest in community and be invested in in turn.

Reblogging for commentary. ^ X

Sep 14 '14

Anonymous asked:

Fuck boy huh? Lol clever carpet Carpet muncher. Kill yourself. Bitch how yo hair natural but yo sexual orientation not? Daddy issues? Were you raped or molested? Orrrrrrrrrrrrr let me guess.. the certified Mentally Retarded Answer : "I was born like this" FUCK who all supporting this bullshit blog you could NEVER be revolutionary. Them white people you "embarrassed" shouldn't feel that slighted. You an the rest of you gay hoes is the real embarrassment.

black--lamb:

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OR NAH?!

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OR NAAAAAHH??

MY NIGGGGAAAAAAA

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Sep 14 '14

i-heal-miraculously asked:

Sorry for all the assholes shiting on you :( you do such an amazing job & I learned so much from following you! Thanks for that!!

I get so many msgs like this, but I know you’ve been following me for a while so I’ll dignify yours with a response:

People of colour are not your teaching tools. ESPECIALLY not adopted orphans of colour.

It is NOT my intention much less my “job” to educate whites and non-adoptees.

The tasks of unmaking and shedding light on oppression should NEVER be relegated to the oppressed people.

Using me as a source for your benefit and saying "sorry for all the assholes shitting on you,” yet failing to publicly call out the other white bio spawn doing aforementioned shitting is actually terribly rude of you. Your thanks is ultimately nothing but misguided entitlement.

I keep track of my real allies who use my content freely to become better informed themselves, then come collect their own when I make clear that white folks/bio spawn are attacking me.

And if you reduce these truths to an “angry" refusal to educate you, then you were never a trustworthy potential ally to begin with.

Sep 13 '14
beauty4all:

 When Aaliyah and I worked together on Romeo Must Die it was her first movie. She was charming, talented and acting came very naturally to her. We worked together for about four months and she had a great energy. She enjoyed the martial art sequences and due to her previous dancing ability was able to learn movements very quickly. Cory Yuen and I both agreed that with some training she could be a very good action star. We would talk to each other about different story ideas and hoped that we would be able to work again in the future. At that time it was our mutual desire to work together again. On the set she was nice to everyone, no matter who they were, and the whole crew loved her.
 I was in China when I heard about her death. Sad? Shocked? Surprised? Words can not express the emotions. She had posessed an emormous amount of potential. I sat and prayed with two friends for over two hours in the hopes that she would find herself in a better place than she had left.
 Of course, I was depressed for a little while afterwards, because even though it was over two years since we worked together, I can remember it as if it was just yesterday.

beauty4all:

When Aaliyah and I worked together on Romeo Must Die it was her first movie. She was charming, talented and acting came very naturally to her. We worked together for about four months and she had a great energy. She enjoyed the martial art sequences and due to her previous dancing ability was able to learn movements very quickly. Cory Yuen and I both agreed that with some training she could be a very good action star. We would talk to each other about different story ideas and hoped that we would be able to work again in the future. At that time it was our mutual desire to work together again. On the set she was nice to everyone, no matter who they were, and the whole crew loved her.

I was in China when I heard about her death. Sad? Shocked? Surprised? Words can not express the emotions. She had posessed an emormous amount of potential. I sat and prayed with two friends for over two hours in the hopes that she would find herself in a better place than she had left.

Of course, I was depressed for a little while afterwards, because even though it was over two years since we worked together, I can remember it as if it was just yesterday.

Sep 13 '14

99% of media portrayals of adopted kids

  • scenario 1: no problems ever! graciously rescued from a broken home/impoverished or war-torn country! unquestioningly grateful and indebted to their adoptive family! has nothing but 100% good things to say about being adopted, all the time!
  • scenario 2: absolutely miserable. aggressively resentful of adopted family and of their adoption. will petulantly respond to even the most gentle of requests with proclamations of "you're not my real family!" usually a rebel/delinquent/generally maladjusted and sometimes even violent.
  • The other 1%? Aliens. Seriously.